For those who don’t remember, in October last year BF and I sat down and created a schedule for visitation. I have 3 ss’s, the younger 2 live with BM and middle of last year the eldest one (13) came to live with us.
Just like you all, I’m sick and tried of BM making up her own drop off and pick up times and days for whenever it suits her. So that’s when the schedule comes in.
BM wasn’t happy with the first or 2nd schedule, so it was redone afew times until there was an agreement.
BF and BM have never been to court, it has come close afew times, but visitation was always sorted out between the 2 of them. BM can be mature only when and if she wants to be.
Back track for a min…. Recently BF and I found out that BM and her boyfriend of only afew months broke up. BF and I already knew that this was the calm before the storm. It happens everytime BM breaks up with someone.
Anyway, BM calls on Saturday evening, saying how all of a sudden after 4 months, that the schedule is not fair and she is unhappy with it. That BF doesn’t see the kids enough, WTF???? She only wants to see SS13 for about 36 hours EOW. When BF sees all 3 of his children every Friday and EOW as well as full custody of 1. She wants us to be able to do her babysitting favours if she has to work on her weekend, this wouldn’t be a problem if the favour were returned. We have done many favours for her in the past and none were ever returned. But now all of a sudden she has changed and will help us if we help her, so she says. Yeah, right, when pigs fly maybe.
This woman is just never happy. The last thing discussed was she was going to look at the schedule again and decided weather she wants to see her 13-year-old son more the 36 hours EOW.
BF spoke to her again 48 hours later and she was as nice a pie. She has said that she hasn’t had a chance to look at the schedule, but she will leave it as is for now.
This woman has nothing to complain about, the schedule is more than fair, it’s all even stevens.
I broke down after her Saturday night phone call. I was vomiting and dizzy, I was crying saying to BF that this is why the schedule was done, so there wouldn’t be anymore dramas about visitation and BM agreed. I explain to BF that I can’t go through another year of her picking and choosing when she wants and doesn’t want to be a mother to her children. I can’t handle this anymore.
You might be thinking that I have over reacted, but over the last 4 years she has cause so much drama for us and it has put major strain on our relationship and just the thought of it being another year like the last 4 puts knots in my stomach.
BF promises that this year will be a better year and BM isn’t going to get her way no matter how much she tries.

I’m sorry if this is too long, I just needed to get this off my chest. I know we are all going through similar situations. BM isn’t as bad as some of the ones I have read about on here and I congratulate you all for coming this far as I don’t know if I am as strong as you all are.