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The Anxiety and Depression are back SS 21 moving to close for comfort

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Submitted by karenemoy on Tue, 05/24/2011 - 10:32am

Bi polar drug addict SS21 moving 10 mins away from us. Has been in and out of some form of rehab for the past year. For the last 6 months he has been living in another state. BM claims he has gone through 12 step program - don't believe because he has not apologized to DH for what he did. Nothing has changed - still no job, not even talking about getting a job. Blames mental illness on everything even though his therapist said there is no reason why he cant hold a job. Just does not want to.

I am freaking out. DH is being very strong - told SS cant come to house, we are not ready. DH assures me that I will not have to have anything to do with him.

I just cannot believe he is not living near BM - about 1 hour away from us. She did this on purpose since she found the apartment. I am fearful she will sue us to make us pay for adult bi polar drug addict SS - can she do that? DH has agreed to continue health insurance but that is it. He is doing this because he cares not because a court said he had to.

I cant take this kid - manipulation - no job. Now mooching off BM since DH told her we are done paying. He took us for a ton of money - film school he never went to, an apartment in NY for two years, cars, insurance - the list goes on and on.

I hate this kid. I was so good to this skid.

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Submitted by winehead on Tue, 05/24/2011 - 1:49pm

I absolutely dreaded it when my SS came back to town after rehab. But he actually WENT to rehab and appears to be getting his act together. But we didn't know what to expect, and the possibility of relapse was (and is) always there.

Hope your DH can stay strong. It's the best thing he can do for his son. And the best thing he can do for YOU is to keep his promise to you that you don't have to be involved. I hope you and your DH are good at talking about SS so you can stay on the same page. Surprises are the worst!

Nobody can force DH to financially support his adult child. In fact, rehab would have stressed that SS is totally responsible for his own life, and this includes financial responsibility.