Just married my husband in September, but we've lived together for 2 years and together a total of 3. He has 3 kids 15,13,and 9, and I have one 9 year old. We have custody of all but his oldest who decided life with us was too hard this summer after he was supposed to dig a couple of post holes,that night he ran away to his moms and has lived there now for 4 months.