Understand this completely! Whenever BM goes radio silent, we know to expect some shit-storm coming up...it's just a matter of when it will happen and what will the topic be. Cranking up the crazy...that's what happens after the quiet period.

:jawdrop: Oh yes. So BM went from a screaming raging threat throwing cow to silence overnight almost a year ago. i am STILL waiting for the other shoe to fall. It makes no sense... Since I can't figure out how it changed overnight, I am suspicious.

End of July last year, 2 weeks before school started. DH and I were both at that time working from home. BM was demanding the kids be put in daycamp. DH said no, no reason, they can just spend their days here at the house. We have them 50% of the time anyway. BM also works from home - DH told her if she couldn't keep them, she can drop them here during the day. She lives less than 10 mins from us anyway. BM FREAKS out - says no, she won't allow it because I am here working from home too and she doesn't want her kids here with me. Remember, DH is here also. Anyway, she puts them in daycamp on her own $$ where she proceeds to drop them on her mornings for the day. DH just went and picked them up at 10AM and brought them here anyway since it was our night.

BM also at that time was throwing threats of - I am going to court to take you for all you are worth because I will not allow my kids in the house if your wife is there. We had been married well over 2 years and we'd bought the house and moved in before that even. WTF?!?!

August 4th - DH informs BM he doesn't want the kids in after school care because SD11 can bus to his house after school and I can pickup SS6 (I agreed because seriously, like BM would ever allow that - see above) on our days and bring him here to the house. DH is now working outside the home, so that would mean the skids would be ALONE with me. BM said, yeah sure fine.

That was the end of it, all of it, not a peep.

My only wild guess is that she went to a lawyer and found out that she has to pay us CS (currently none exchanges hands - the original order was for BM to pay DH $120 a month which he declined) and that there is nothing she can do since he is providing 'care' for them as the decree states, unless she wants to pay after school care herself - or exercise right of refusal to take the kids herself during the times I had them alone - there was nothing she could do. You see, BM doesn't want the kids anymore time, in fact she'd drop time if she could as it is - so I am guessing she got told to give it up. If not, then I have no freaking idea what happened from July 30-Aug 4th for BM to turn a 180.

Also, during the last year, BM stepped up to offer to pay half of SD's braces.

So, Its been almost a year and I am still waiting....