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Submitted by June on Sun, 05/16/2010 - 5:38pm

My DH is off from work on Sunday and Tuesdays. We get the skids both those days, all day. We also get the skids (12 &16) on alternating Fri or Sat nights when my husband gets out of work and they sleep over. So my DH and I only get one 'date night' per week. Either a fri night after we get out of work(and he has to work the next day) or a Sat night after he gets out of work.(and he has to wake up early the next morning to pick up skids) I never get to spend the day with him. I am off on Sat but he has to work until very late afternoon. Sunday he is off but most of the attention is spent with the kids. I would really love it if we could do every other weekend so that my DH and I could spend a Sunday together and go someplace. Or just have a little more time. I need to know if this visitation schedule sounds messed up to anyone else but me. I'm not sure how to ask DH to consider changing it because this has been the arrangement for so long now and I don't want to upset the apple cart so to speak. Also I think BM gets more alone time with her husband then I do with mine but DH says that's not true.

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Submitted by starfish on Sun, 05/16/2010 - 5:52pm

sounds like a screwed up schedule to me....... but it's better than most...... i always wonder why can't we just have eoweekend, in stead every wed, and eotues plus eoweekend..... fucking sucks for me....

and wouldn't you think at 12 & 16 they would have a social life and want to hang with friends???? i have sd13 and ss10 and am starting to think their friends are make believe......i totally had friends to stay the night wiht at that age.... and enjoyed it so much more than staying home...... and i do not make staying ta my house fun --- it's not like i'm mean or anything, but i go out of my way to make it super duper boring.......

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Submitted by June on Sun, 05/16/2010 - 6:08pm

LMAO. Your so right!!!! Actually my 16 yo hasn't been over much lately bc He is out with friends. The 12 y.o. I swear has no friends, kinda sad actually. But when he is over he useally just goes in the game room and plays video games or watches tv the ENTIRE weekend. I try to get him out of the house and he won't budge. We all go out as a family often but like you said I too use to be at friends house esp on the weekend. It's not like we do anything that exciting. Just blows to basically not have anytime with my husband on the weekend. Like right now... My step son is laughing loudly and anoyingly at some movie and I would much rather be enjoying the last few hrs of the weekend with my husband. Ugh

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Submitted by mnlover2010 on Sun, 05/16/2010 - 8:10pm

My DH gets his son which is 2 thursday at 11 to sunday at 11. DH works monday to friday. I would love to spend the night or day with my DH alone. And sunday all we do is get ready for the next week, shopping, laundry, anything else.

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Submitted by sweetness01 on Mon, 05/17/2010 - 3:12am

Hi,
I had the same problem up until a couple of months ago. SD5 used to come round every weekend and one day in the week, this meant me and my bf had v.little time together because he works 6 days a week and when he comes in from work obviously there's dinner to cook and he's tired etc so we had very little quality time together. One day in an argument I told him straight that I live with him but feel like I hardly see him and that I need some 'weekend time' with him. Luckily for me he agreed and now SD comes round EOW. Another change was we never used to do food shopping when SD was round so had to do it one evening instead. I told my bf that this made things hard and so now we do the shopping on a sunday, regardless of whether SD is here or not.

Things are working much better now but it did take a lot of arguing and 'heated discussions' to get things this way, they could have easily gone the other way and he split up with me for not understanding he has to put his daughter first. I decided it was worth trying because I knew I couldnt carry on with the way things were.

Good luck x