i have a chance to not have anything to do with this child. but i can't do it. im serious i want to shoot myself. biomom gave sd her phone becuase its not right for a teen not to have a phone right? it doesn't matter the boy who raped sd was picked up this morning for first degree rape charges.but then i find out sd is hanging out with the brothers sister again. this could really not be good for that case. this girl acts and talks like a ho. the more the days go on the more sick i get. i don't know how to play step-mom when i have been MOM this whole time. she called me by my name. before dh and i even started dating this girl was calling me mom. i don't get it guys and i thought i would be happy but i really didn't want to see her go to her drug-head bio mom! im so upset i don't even know where to start. and before all you tell me to let it go. i don't know how. i don't! i don't know how to get the self-control to not look at grades or is she skipping. she has been my responsibility since day one. i should be greatful this toxic mess isn't about me or around my other two children. how do i explain all this to them when they realize she is really not at her grandmas anymore. most people would be done after one time dhs called on me...i was/not! becuase i held on and now years later i don't know how to move on with my life. I know this is stupid and ridiculous. and why should i care. but i do. and i need some serious help... anyone else go to counsling for something like this? i always wanted to adopt becuase that was what i was supposed to do. but then i got sd and that took precident...in a way it was actual adoption... now what?