Last night SS12 apparently lost an assignment or the teacher did. He needed to re-print it for the teacher. Well guess what it is at BM's house, since it was on her time. After two calls to her house with no answer, DH told him to call his mom at work. He calls Cell - No answer. He tells her to call the store direct to get her. He finally gets her. She tells SS that either DH or I should drive him over to get itand hangs up. Keep in mind they live in the next subdivision. Well I looked at DH and said no we are not, she can have someone email it. She didn't even think of that she just went right to inconveniencing us. So DH calls her back and says exactly that and she had to think for a moment if that was going to work. Five minutes later we had it.

Well when these calls were going on and SS was getting frustrated and I said just call your mom and she can handle it. He said she is at work. I stated that she is always a mom first. Her job comes second. He stated maybe for you because you work in the house. I was calm because this comes up a lot more than I would like. I said, that is a choice I made because I wanted to put my children first. Then proceeded to walk out of the room.

I have always worked. I am just lucky that what I do is capable from my house. I started my own firm so that I could be at home when the kids got off the bus. Not everyone has that ability, I get that. But, I am sorry but when you are working 60 hours a week and take extra shifts, you are not putting your kids first. Somehow because she leaves the house, her job is more valuable...this is implied a lot to me by SK's. My son doesn't do it, because he has benefitted from my being home and having a job that has paid pretty good over the years. My DH doesn't do it. Why does this kid continue to do this?

During this, SS tells us last night that BM is working until 9:00 PM every night. I am sorry but that is wrong. She has him every other week. When you have him, you should be with him in the evenings. He is asleep by 9:30. She is having him alone with Step dad and his sister and his Step-Sister. The same one who was expelled. He joked with his Dad last night, that it is so different when he is at this house. Dh asked what he meant by it. He said it is funny when I go in the cabinets here there are always clean glasses. At mom's I always have to take them out of the dishwasher. Well at least we seem to be gettng closer to this realization that we are waiting for from SS12. We want him to tell us that he wants to be here full time and have weekends with mom. I am just not sure anymore why he wants to be there. SD is mean to him, he is always alone, no one really spends time with him. DH has convinced himself that it is loyalty. This BM does not deserve this kids loyalty.