So I get home from work today and SO is on her way out the door to work a bit early (not a long commute so I figured something was up).  SS17 found a way to fight with Mom again, naturally when I'm not there to play security guard.  I was told he yelled at her and told her she "needed to start showing him some respect!"  Not saying it surprised me, but it's the kind of escalation on his part that can lead to a very nasty exchange between mother and son.  He craves this every so often, but does NOT crave it with me (a man).  Go figure...

Anyway I become aware of the latest little tiff before I even walk in the door.  I said nothing.  I did nothing.  It was the best move for me.  The disagreement didn't involve me, and even though he's a disrespectful ungrateful jackass, there's nothing I can do about it.  There's no lecture, scolding, or conversation that will help this situation.  He and I didn't even enter the same room at the same time tonight, which was best.  I'm not even angry about it.  Just disgusted and used to it.  Keeping my distance is keeping me calm.  And sane.