Step Daughter custody
Hello,
I have a question. I am married to my wonderful husband. We have been married for almost 2 years now. I have 3 step daughters in which he has visitations for all three of them. He pays support and pays about 700 a month in support. His checks are basically all gone. He comes home every two weeks with less than 100 dollars. We are expecting a child of our own right now. His oldest daughter lives in Maryland and is 7 years old. Her mother gave her parents full custody of his child. He never signed anything or even knew about it until yesterday. We called the courts and asked how she was able to give his daughter up without him signing or even knowing. The courts said that they can't help us with that. They didn't help at all. I was wondering if it is possible if i file for custody or try to adopt her. I think she needs to be with one her parents.
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Your husband brings home $200
Your husband brings home $200 per month? He needs to file for a modification of support and FAST. No one can live off of that!
Why would you file for custody? Your husband should be fighting this in court. That is HIS child.
About 200 a month. I am going
About 200 a month. I am going to file cause he won't for some reason. Its like he is afraid of losing but its worth a shot. I keep telling him that if he doesn't do something his daughter will grow up wondering why he didn't do anything to get her out of where she is. Every summer, she comes and keeps saying how her mom didn't want her anymore and now her grandparents are telling her that they don't want her.
Seriously, he won't even try?
Seriously, he won't even try? In that case, she may be better just to stay where she is. If there's any kind of resistance from her grandparents when you file, the judge will leave her with family.
Nope. He always gets mad or
Nope. He always gets mad or has a fit when we tell him to call her or call the courts. It's like he doesn't even care about them which doesn't make sense because those kids didn't do anything to him. They are the innocent ones.
Oh dear... I don't think you
Oh dear...
I don't think you should move forward with this. Is it possible that he did know that the mom was signing over rights to her parents and just isnt telling you?
He doesn't care about his kids. That's a huge red flag to me. Do you have kids with him? I am concerned.
He needs to petition the
He needs to petition the courts for custody.
But can he honestly afford to have his kid full time. If after paying 700 a month in child support, he only have 200 a month leslft over, that means he is only making 900 a month total? The child support for the other two isn't going to go away, so how does he plan on feeding and clothing this child if he were to get custody?
With my help. We both are
With my help. We both are working. His family said they would help also but he won't do anything about it. I have to be the one to set up the visitations cause he won't. I am the one who gets stuck watching them all the time when they are here.
Honestly, you are
Honestly, you are ovetstepping. He doesn't want custody, he doesn't even want visitation. It's not your place to try and force it. Who do you think will be "stuck" Ding EVERTHING for this girl if you do get custody? You will grow to hate it and resent them both, not good for anyone.
You've let him know that youbwould support him if he choses to go down that road, nownleave it alone.
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I agree with BS. HE needs to
I agree with BS. HE needs to file for custody.
Bless you girl, you are a
Bless you girl, you are a people pleaser, aren't you? And you are jumping right in to fix everybody and save the day. And he's letting you, right? Good deal for him. Except it isn't your job to do that, it is his. I agree that this isn't passing the smell test.
Please don't adopt, if it doesn't work out, guess what? You could end up paying CS on his kid. Men fall in to that trap all of the time. Don't do it. He needs to deal with this. Stand back and watch, it will show you what he is made of and if he is worth your time.
Slow down.