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Submitted by jenstep on Thu, 03/17/2011 - 8:11pm

Less than 48 hours after BM walked out of mediation - surprise, surprise...We get a little visit from DSS. She had called and said she was on her way so I called my lawyer whose response was - "Let her in." So I did. I was home alone and DH was picking up the younger kids. The allegations were filed mere moments after mediation ended. The anonymous caller (BM) said my DH was abusive to the SSs AND ME! My DH is the passive sort - I'm the dominating one in the family. Everyone I have told this to has just laughed. You only have to meet DH for 5 minutes before you know there's just no way... And we don't even spank in our house. I'm not anti-spanking, but taking away privilidges works better with our kids. One of the allegations was that DH physically abused the youngest SS in 2009. But the call was made Tuesday. Two years later.

DH and the 2 youngest came home a few minutes after the case worker got here and we all had a nice chat for about 45 minutes. The case worker was pretty surprised to find out that BM only had a few hours of supervised visitation per week and that Tuesday afternoon she walked out of mediation. The case worker was pretty suspicious of the timing and gave us the paperwork right then which said she had no concerns. After she talks to the skids' counselor and our references the case will be cleared and I asked if she would, at that point, write a letter which would outline the allegations and her opinion about them. She said she'd be happy to provide us with a letter which could be submitted in court when the inevitable trial comes. So - yay DSS. But I gotta tell you - when the case worker started asking about MY biological daughter...I got pretty pissed. It dawned on me that bitch BM is not only trying to take away the skids but also get my daughter taken away.

It's on, bitch. It's on.

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12yrstepmonster's picture

Submitted by 12yrstepmonster on Thu, 03/17/2011 - 8:29pm

Personally, falsely made allegations should be punished. Maybe some jail time. The case worker has real issues to deal with, and there are children out there that need to be protected from real abusers. A judge needs to throw her in the slammer, make her pay for the case workers time wasted (since she/he is a state employee and there are budget issues).

GRRRR.......take the gloves off and put on brass knuckles and take 'r down.......

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Submitted by Ex4life on Thu, 03/17/2011 - 10:07pm

You'd think that it would be illegal to make false alligations. If they do it enough DSS can bring charges against them but it rarely happens. In my case, my ex did this 3 times and nothing happened to them. We even had a state administrative law judge clearly state in her report that ex filed false reports of abuse on purpose in order to try to get custody of the children. Still nothing happened to him. Not even a slap on the wrist. The names of my new husband, our children and myself are now flagged so that if anyone calls in now they are warned that filing false charges will result in prosecution against them. Ex has smarted up a little. He now has someone else call in to make the charges. Please know that for every call to the hotline they get they are required to check it out, even when they know its just a arun around.