Incapable BM
SDs grand total for the year was 45 tardies and 10 absences. And that was with distance learning the first half of the year. SD flat out told me it's because she refused to get up in the morning (because she was still tired from not going to bed) and that she would ignore her mom trying to get her to hurry. Clearly BMs policy of no discipline and letting SD run the house is working well.
She can't even handle the basics and yet they're trying to tell us how to run our household? And that we should do the same thing here and make SD the center of everything? Pretty sure ODS who is the same age as SD is completely self sufficient in the morning and has never missed the bus, not sure why we'd want their parenting advice. Not saying we never have any issues with our kids, but it's not even close to the issues SD has.
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Its a control thing
Dont even try to think of it rationally, like why should we listen to an incapable person critique our parenting? It's a control thing on her part and won't stop. As BM, she feels entitled to have a say. She is asserting her (imagined) control. Just ignore it all (easier said than done).
Yeah, she definitely does not
Yeah, she definitely does not have a say. If she can't accept our choices, she can keep SD there. I just can't imagine she actually thinks she's doing a good job.
Parents like her think that
Parents like her think that good parenting means your kids are happy all the time. She says she's not happy at your house, therefore you aren't good parents. Of course, she's not playing the long game of raising productive citizens.
She definitely doesn't want
She definitely doesn't want to be the bad guy ever. Hence looping in GBM when she can't get her to listen or wanting us to take her to school even though our home isn't good enough.
The paradox about spoilt kids
The paradox about spoilt kids is they are never happy. Deep inside they know their parents don't love them enough to discipline them. And no one likes them.
Nothing means anything to her
Nothing means anything to her either because she always gets what she wants. So it's all just whatever.
You'd think with her nasty attitude towards BM that BM would start to pick up on the spoiledness too.
Jcksjj
A toxic BM equals toxic offspring, and "off" being the operative word.
I guarantee there is jealosy towards your ODS and how well adjusted he is. The difference will be even more glaring the older they get.
Pretty sure SD will not keep visitation for too much longer, those rules and expectations will get in SD's way.
Idk if BM knows enough about
Idk if BM knows enough about ODS to be jealous. I'm sure she is jealous of the younger 2 that are DHs though. And maybe jealous that he took on ODS when DH told BM repeatedly that if the DNA test came back as SD not being his he wasn't going to be with her.
I dont expect visitation will last either. Then BM and SD can both blame all their problems on DH for being absent.
Reminds me of the days when
Reminds me of the days when Skids would come over EOW, BM wanted to control everything. What we did, where we went, what they ate. Meanwhile, in her house, the Skids roamed free, had no structure, only ate fast food. Kids would miss school because she hadnt done laundry and they didn't have clean clothes to wear. Or because it was raining. Or it was too cold. Needless to say - SD wil be 21 and works at fast food establishments and bartends on the side. SS28 couch surfs and doesn't have a job.
Same here
The Girhippo wanted to control everything about Chef's EOWE yet there were and still are no rules at the Gir's house. No rules to rebel against thus many skids live in mommy's basement well into their twenties and beyond.
Break away from them as much
Break away from them as much as you can. They all are just crazy.
Yeah, none of them bring
Yeah, none of them bring anything positive to our lives.