Following a very long discussion after DH being guilt tripped by his mom (see last blog) DH actually admitted that some of his behavior is guilt driven and also being driven by the need to prove himself. SD is with us 50/50 and does ALOT of fun stuff on the weeks she is with her mom. Every single weekend is a short trip, going to the zoo, a movie etc. I recently took my ODS who only has me as a biological parent to a movie also. It was the first time I've been able to do something with just him and I since my youngest was born (9 months). Dh admitted that he feels he needs to do more with just SD because she does stuff with her mom so often and I do with my son also. I asked him how often he did stuff with just her when he was still living with her and her mom. After stuttering a minute he eventually said never it was always all 3 of us. I knew that was going to be the answer based on how he treats my DS. Hes not a bad dad at all, but there is an obvious difference in how he acts toward SD and how he acts towards the other kids because she is only there half the time. He also admitted that he feels the need to do things for SD just because I've done them for my son even though its things her mom has already taken care of and its not necessary but he feels like less of a parent if he doesnt also. Which is a totally different dynamic then the other kids. With them if I take care of something he doesnt think twice about doing it himself. I dont see how those types of things need to be different just because they're being taken care of at her moms house instead of ours. 

So even though he admitted the reasoning I already suspected for alot of this, he didnt seem very open to working on it. More like he wanted me to just accept that explanation and let it all go because of that. So yeah I'm not really sure where to go from there on that subject.