I have mentioned about my step son previously, and was thinking that I had finally been rid of him (you will understand with the other blogs that I have posted).

He had gone to his grandfathers for the summer and we had started to try t have a child when he was gone, then all of the sudden comes back, and the trying had stopped as well as subsequently when he moved out and my wife was on her pity pot about it. With getting cut off sexually and being tired of the nonsense, I had met somebody and had an affair for about a month with a younger woman.

Now that he's back, I feel like my space is being invaded. Forgive me for feeling this way, but I felt like the bane of my existence was gone. Now it seems to be back to the same thing, him sitting on his ass all day, and no job.

The wife claims that she's not going to stop trying to have a child of our own, although, since he has been back, the sex has been non existant. I told her that she has a month to prove to me that things are different now, otherwise, I am leaving. I am about to be 37, and since I have been married, every time my birthday hits, I freak out with regrets of life that's passed me by. I don't have any children of my own and I'm not getting any younger, so I would like to get out while I have the chance to meet somebody to have that possibility with, I am in a new office building with an abundance of women who have shown an interest in me.

One friend just mentioned to me about being a step parent, that it's "A bad situation in itself because you have no say and everybody knows it", which feels exactly where I am at and have throughout this whole marriage.

I told her tonight that things NEED to change, otherwise I'm out, I'm giving it New Years or my birthday, both of which are very close. Anyways, I felt the need to write since I tried to discuss this and she flipped out and was unwilling to talk.