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My BF's Niece is in the hospital.....

Itwillgetbetter's picture

Ok so she is in the hospital she got into a bad car accident. So we have been going to the hospital to see her but we have been trying to avoid BM so that way there is no drama. BF and I went to the hospital the other day and we sat down in the room and the mother of the girl that is laying in the bed told BF " your BM was here and she was talking to my daughter and she started crying and my daughter squeezed her hand". Now what was she expecting him to say? honestly I dont know. But I felt bad here I am the new woman in his life and she wants to talk about how her daughter responded to his EX!!! She couldnt tell him that over the phone? Should this not have bothered me? I forgot to mention the neice is not responsive at all its like shes in a coma.. So did she really squeeze BM's hand???

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bewitched's picture

"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere

She was probably just so stressed, so traumatized by what has happened to her daughter, that the idea of her daughter squeezing anyones hand would make her want to shout it to the world.

I agree with crayon. Just nod, leave it at that.

melis070179's picture

So the ex-wife was at the hospital when your BF's niece (his sister's daughter?) was in the hospital? Do I have that right? Why did she go to the hospital in the first place?

"Nobody will ever win the battle of the sexes. There's too much fraternizing with the enemy"

lil_teapot's picture

because if the ex-wife is not a blood-relative of the girl in the hospital that is just messed up for her to be there and for the girls mother to say that!! I'd be heated!

Itwillgetbetter's picture

No BM is not a blood relative.. but I guess she felt she needed to be there because she was with my BF for 15 years. I dont know.

lil_teapot's picture

That's messed up! I would put that girl's mother on my shit list and not take her name off of it!lol If that's how she wants to behave, then I'd write her off instead of having a lifetime of her drama. Anyone can understand her being upset at having a kid in a coma...and I truly hope that the girl is ok...the girl's mother though was not only thoughtless but cruel to you...and it sounds deliberate...I mean, who would say something like that unless it was a jab at you.
I think that bm had absolutely no right to be there...I mean, maybe she was visiting out of respect, and maybe that's her right (although it would have p*ssed me off to no end). But, it's like, hello, does anyone get divorced anymore?! I mean really, just because you married someone for a while, does that mean you two are forever joined?!!! I mean seriously, cuz if that's the case, I've got something wrong with me...because I left my exH and haven't had contact with him or his freaky family at all...and at one point he was (I thought) the love of my life. But hi, life changes, we move on. If his parents are in the hospital, I'm sorry, but hell no I'm not going visiting!
I don't know...these things are so weird and twisted...alot of the time I wonder if I'd be better off leaving this H and getting a 22 y.o. who doesn't have all this BAGGAGE.
Stay strong girl, you're better than how you're being treated.
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