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I dont look forward to the weekends

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Submitted by Itwillgetbetter on Sat, 11/15/2008 - 2:03pm

I dont look forward to the weekends that his daughter comes over at all because i know that he changes with my son when his daughter is around. Im even afraid to leave my son at home if i have to work because last time i did that he took a game away from my son to give it to his daughter and when my son didnt want to let her play with it he gave my son the game and told his daughter come on lets leave him alone with his game..(they are both 9) how am I suppose to feel about this???/

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Submitted by melis070179 on Sat, 11/15/2008 - 2:06pm

What do you mean "leave him alone with this game"? Like left the house & left him there? Or simply gave it back to him & went in another room? If he didn't want to share the game, I probably would have taken my kid & went into another room too. If thats what he did. Not sure I understand the whole story.

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Submitted by Itwillgetbetter on Sat, 11/15/2008 - 2:09pm

there is reasons why he doesnt want to share the game. She doesnt share with him at all. and thats why he didnt want to share it and left my son in a different room. But how do you think my son feels here you have this man that is not his dad and with his daughter and pushing him to the side like this.

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Submitted by starbella2722 on Sat, 11/15/2008 - 11:48pm

When husbands two kids come over things like that happen all the time. Like DH has a computer that is just his, we have one that the kids use for games and my laptop so when the sk are here there are 2 comps for them to play on, kids and mine. they have to take turns. if one of the sk want to play and its not their turn DH lets them use his computer. this upsets me because he never lets my biokids play on it.
I know that he feels guilty that he rarely gets to spen time with the sk but he is the only father that my kids have, they haven't seen there biodad since we split up(his choice)so they think of DH as there father. So when he treats them with less affection than usual just because the sk are here it hurts them. the two girls the most because they were 1 and 3 when their biodad left so they don't even remember him.
I talked to DH about it and he has lately tried very hard not to play favorites. when his ex texts him and says that he loves my kids more than his own he replies that he loves all 7 of his children the same. She has an older daughter that he adopted and has always seen her as his daughter so why she can;t see that he is just a loving person and can have a big enough heart for all of the children, I don't know.
Try having a loving conversation with him and tell him how much it hurts children when the adults in their lives treat them as if they don't matter.
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