I finally convinced SO that SK1 needed counseling, and the ex finally agreed. When first approached, she said, “How are we going to get him to go?” She literally didn’t want to fight with SK1 about getting help; it wasn’t worth it to her. And yes, she actually said that, in so many words. Because apparently a 14 year old has the ability to determine his own medical/mental health care, and a parents’ job is to just go along with whatever he wants. 

It began with my SO and the ex meeting the counselor. She tried to say she has no problems with SK1, that if he acts up at our house, it must be because he’s not happy here. Thank God my SO set her straight, instead of just letting her run things like usual. Thank God he told the counselor about how she called us a couple months ago during her week, because SK1 got mad at her, whipped out his wiener, and pissed all over her kitchen floor. Thank God SO told the counselor about SK1 climbing up on the roof of the ex’s house and stripping, so he could throw his clothes at her; he hit her in the head with a shoe while she cried on the phone for my SO to come control SK1. Thank God SO told the counselor about all the hysterical phone calls from her, sobbing that she just can’t handle SK1. Thank God my SO told the counselor that this very smart kid is getting D’s and F’s in all but one class. Because if he hadn’t, she’d have sat there painting a picture of herself as mother of the year, to an angel, whose only problem was my mean SO, and me.

How can she have so little regard for her kids’ well-being? As bad as SK1 acts at the ex’s house, I believe wholeheartedly he likes it better there, because my SO is as close as he ever gets to discipline, and even that’s ridiculously light. She even calls SO to come discipline SK1 when it’s her week. And not wanting to fight with SK1 on counseling he desperately needs? What is that? She tries to put up this front of being so caring, but I wonder why she has kids at all. I swear that kid is going to prison, if he lives long enough, and she doesn’t care enough to even try to prevent it.