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Submitted by Ingleside on Wed, 09/09/2015 - 11:56am

I am living with a stepdaughter for 12 days and am going crazy. She is "VISITING" from Phoenix and she is so manipulative and vengeful. Her father is oblivious to her little sly passive aggressive behavior because she is still his little GIRL. YUK. She is 27 and he didn't have contact with her for a couple of years during his divorce. Now she is here and "HATES" me. I have been told she is jealous of me. I had a stepmother and I was a stepmother !!!! why is she jealous? any comments will be greatly appreciated. She is gone with him for the day and I am elated that I am in my own home alone in my peaceful living room. This is after I have spent a hour being the darn maid and cleaning HER mess. I have decided to just remove myself from their presence and go to my bedroom because her mere face makes me want to throw up. HELP from Illinois.

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Submitted by MommyMayI on Wed, 09/09/2015 - 12:50pm

Go on your own 12 day vacation. You don't need to be there bonding with her. If you can't get off work then stay at a local.hotel at dh's expense. Get massages, go swimming, and order room service. You deserve it girl!

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Submitted by Stepped in what... on Wed, 09/09/2015 - 1:09pm

I always wonder when reading about dealing with these adults skids about straight up asking them "why are you such an asshole and who do you think you are?" Then I want to remind them that if I leave there will be another woman they will have to deal with later because their father has the right to be happy in his life and yes that means having a spouse or companion.

Why do adult skids who have barely shown up on the radar think they have the right to interfere with their parents happiness by causing issues?? I always wonder what a skid would do if their dad hated their FDH or FDW, they probably wouldn't give two shits.

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Submitted by DaizyDuke on Wed, 09/09/2015 - 1:32pm

I will never understand this and I have lived it... so it's not like I'm not understanding because I'm clueless. My Dad married a woman year ago, when I was maybe 10? He helped raise her two kids, and I only got to see him maybe 3 times over the course of 15 years because they live in AZ and I live on the East Coast. No biggie, I have never held any grudges, never been jealous.. .nope. His wife is a very nice lady and (even though I've only met them a handful of times) her children are very nice as well. Why would I be shitty to any of them?

Oh that's right, because I'm a damn decent human being and my mother raised me better

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Submitted by kathc on Wed, 09/09/2015 - 3:25pm

Exactly!

WTF is with these people!

But that right there...your mother raised you better! That's what's missing. Nowadays it's all GUBMs raising their kids to be assholes!