Much to my surprise BM didn't react the way that I thought she would at all. No complaints about feeling disrespected which I anticipated and nothing about how I'd overstepped my boundaries as many on here had suggested. She actually didn't say anything at all until later that night when she sent DH a text and asked if we knew that she wanted SD6 in this specific summer school program, why didn't we enroll her? I was completely floored by this since BM lied to us for MONTHS about SD6 having been enrolled! She lied via text, in person, via email on the telephone and then she had the nerve to ask why WE didn't enroll her! There was no way we were having that conversation via text much less at 10 p.m. so we didn't bother to respond. The next day she sent DH another text saying that just because SD doesn't live with him doesn't mean he can't do things for her like take her to the doctor or dentist. Again, this is laughable since BM hasn't taken her to the doctor in over two years and I have brought her the doctor for every appointment, all of which were ones that we have made, over the last eight months.

She went on to complain that the only reason that DH is able to get so much done for SD is because I've stepped up and done it. She whined about how it's not fair that he has me to help with all of these things and that she could get things done too if she had someone to help her. Now all of this is coming from a woman who lives in an apartment that Daddy pays for because he lives in the apartment downstairs, he pays for every single bill she has, she has state aid for daycare, foodstamps and health insurance. Her mother also lives close by and watches SD6 on a regular basis when BM wants to go out to the bar, or a party or whatever else takes priority over being a mother but instead of utilizing that help for SD6's benefit, she uses it to live the life of a single 21 year old who doesn't have kids. What makes all of this even more ridiculous is that WE are willing to do anything that SD needs done but instead of asking for that help, she lies about it and pretends that she's already done it so SD suffers until we find out about things.

She went on to tell DH that she's got a call in to get SD6 in with the dentist and can we take her because BM herself is afraid of dentists. I've called every dentist in a 25 mile radius and none of them are taking new patients but we agree if BM gets her an appointment, we'll take her. Then she says she has SD6 set up with a psychiatrists appointment with Dr. So and So, which started an argument between DH and BM about how SD6 needs therapy not medication, and BM insisting that a psychiatrist will determine that and blah blah blah. Eventually, I told DH that it was pointless to even be having this conversation that he needs to deal with her via email because all of the back and forth isn't getting anything accomplished. Since I called the dentist she claimed she had a call into and found out that they're still not taking new patients, I thought I'd call the psychiatrist too, so that if BM had set up an appointment she couldn't go in there and lie her way into an ADHD script for SD. I went on the insurance company website and sure as shit, the psych she's supposedly going to see is the first name on the list, so I called them only to find out that not only is there no record of an appointment for SD6 but this psychiatrist works part time in the inpatient department and does not now, nor has she ever done outpatient visits.

So the only thing that came from the discussion with BM on Sunday was another pathetic attempt to pretend like she's being a parent. BUT to make things even more INTERESTING, DH and I went to the daycare where BM works and SD6 attends to get a copy of her behavioral records, since it's been an ongoing problem but BM refuses to take SD6 out of there because it's convenient for BM. It's a screwed up situation to begin with since BM works there, the staff doesn't communicate with DH at all and even the assistant director was a hose beast about releasing records despite the fact that DH told her that we need them for SD's therapy appointment and that we don't want any problems because BM works there, we just want to do what's best for SD. So she takes a copy of the divorce decree, says she'll call us when the records are ready. The very next morning, BM texts DH and she's beyond PISSED that we asked for records and basically repeated the convo he had with the assistant director! She told DH that he won't get anywhere and he's just trying to prove that she's a bad mother and take SD6 away from her. Nothing like some serious unprofessionalism from the administration. I go get the records and this hag hands me THREE pages from May of 2014-SD6 has been in this daycare for three YEARS!-and says that's all that's in the file but they'll keep better records this summer. Now this daycare is a chain and part of a large, multi-state corporation so of course there ARE policies and procedures. The paperwork we got says SD6 is hitting kids while they're sleeping, slapping kids, kicking them with her casted leg, climbing on furniture, kicking and hitting the teacher, running kids over with her wheelchair because all of this took place while SD6 had a broken leg! So DH called the corporate office and got ahold of the district manager who was even less helpful and is trying to cover BM's ass and her own, saying she doesn't know why there aren't more records, skating around the subject of why SD6 wasn't kicked out and giving us some crap about how the center director is on vacation so she'll have to talk to her but she'll be on vacation next week and blah blah.

We're keeping records of all of this for our court date and were lucky enough to have gotten SD's report card instead of it ending up with BM. Her teacher reiterated for a second time how important it is that SD attends summer school, that her behavior really needs to improve, etc. but it does show that she HAS improved in the third trimester since she's been spending most of her time with us. Her standardized testing scores show that when she started and the first two sets of test had her behind grade level and that during the time BM had her 90% of the time not only did her progress plateau but she actually scored LOWER on the winter tests than she did in the fall but by the end of the year testing she had increased tremendously and scored high average and high. Since the court date isn't until September, SD6 will miss out on summer school, but we sent BM an email explaining that SD6 is signed up in our district and that we'd like her to attend. She hasn't responded yet but she'll say no, which will give us more ammo when she tries to give the judge some line of crap about why SD didn't attend summer school. Let her explain to a judge that even though SD's teacher stressed how important it was and even though we had her signed up and she could have attended, that BM felt spending time in a daycare center where they can't control SD6 or even keep records was more important and in her best interest.

OH and DH just got a text from BM saying that she had to cancel her BS's birthday party that SD6 was supposed to attend (even though it's our weekend) last minute because her mom had to go up north unexpectedly. Now, I feel bad for that kid, he doesn't have anyone fighting for him. It's seriously pathetic that some people have to go through infertility treatment even though they'd make great parents and this hag had two kids that she does nothing but neglect and disappoint.