I don't usually post as I find everyone elses posts usually support and help me.
But after last night I am really looking for some insight/support/ or just a damned good laugh.
SD14 hasn't been the same since midsummer. She was spending a week on a week off for awhile (even though the parenting plan is every other weekend). All of the sudden it stopped and when we did have visitation SD14 was mouthy and bratty and demanding about what she deserved from her dad. Once she would get what she wanted her dad was as good as dead to her LOL... He is done providing her with anything other than neccessities.
So last weekend SD14 and SD12 had their visitation. The last few I've tried to be scarce because I can't stand the way SD14 disrespects her dad and her sister. Not my kid not my problem, so I just schedule my own activities... but now that SD14 is in HS I'd love to go to some football games. She is in the pep band (optional). So I said next game let us know so we can go. She mentioned she needed a lyar for her instrument to hold her music, which I found online for 5.00 and told her her mom should be able to get this for her no problem.
Yesterday she texts DH and asks if we are still taking her to the game. Well, she never communicated there WAS a game, so no. Then she got all sassy saying well you didn't buy me the lyar I needed either. (this statement came AFTER she told her dad she wasn't going to play in the pep band because she couldn't sit with her friends). DH says well, I didn't say I would buy that for you and why should I now since you aren't going to participate. She said he needed to take her to the game and that she had a ride home... answer still NO. I told him no as well because we don't know who was going to take her home and didn't need that "liability" should she not make it home.
Fastforward... 930PM I am getting ready to call it a night and I get a text from SD14... can you please come pick me up from the game... I ask DH to check his phone, she tried him first. I text back saying DH is on his way. She says but there is 4 minutes left in the game... don't care, you are lucky you are getting a ride...didn't say that but you get my drift.
BM works 3 days a week for like five hours... so I was curious as to why she wasn't picking her daughter up since it wasn't a work night for her...
DH gets home pissed as hell. Apparently BM has a new boyfriend over and couldn't be bothered with picking her child up. DH spoke to SD14 about her shitty attitude which was counteracted with "I can think for myself and speak my mind dad". He drops her off and BMs new boyfriend is at the house... he text BM to say hey, what the heck??? no response. Tried to call and no response. Yet the state says we can't have the kids more because it would break continuity with their custodial parent... hmmm. We only live a mile from them and BM does NOTHING to provide a solid foundation.
OK done ranting but would love everyones take on this... or am I over reacting by being pissed that a custodial parent couldn't be bothered? I am a BM and I ALWAYS put my BS first when he was under my roof!