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Is it wrong to want to be done with this mess

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Submitted by hotmomma on Mon, 03/07/2011 - 8:24pm

She did not pay us child support for the first 4 years because we told her we would pay and not to worry about it. Then, after 4 years she would not even buy him a pair of shoes etc..so we got cs at 200.00 a month and she was not behind. There is nothing we can do about the first 4 years, shame on us for being nice.
Not only did all this go down but we had a court order stating that he come back in fall for school after her summer visit and she broke the court order and did not send him back, parental kidnapping. They dont care about broken court orders I guess court orders mean nothing anymore!!!! It is just a shame that she went about things in such a way. Now my ss thinks that courts are stupid,etc...
Now that my ss has decided to leave his bf and the rest of us after 12 years, his bm is saying we can only have him for 2 weeks in the summer when we let her have him for weeks every summer for years. I am at the point where I am done or just about there. I am not sure what that means yet but I feel done with the situation. If we are going to pay 600 a month and only see him for a total of 3 to 4 weeks a year..I dont want it. I have other kids that this affects and I am really weary of all of this....Anybody deal with this? I really dont think an attorney will help at this point. What to do!

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Submitted by Ex4life on Mon, 03/07/2011 - 8:32pm

Court orders are your friend. You sure can't enforce anything if you don't have orders that she has to follow. Why let her tell you you can only have 2 weeks. Most sumer orders calls for almost half of the summer if its asked for.

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Submitted by hotmomma on Mon, 03/07/2011 - 8:36pm

Well I thought court orders were our friends too, until she decided not to send him back to bf as he had physical custody. They did not even slap her hand, unbelievable.
As for the summer, we hired a lawyer in her town for the case and we never got anywhere. They said it would be up to him and how long he wants to come, we will see.

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Submitted by hotmomma on Tue, 03/08/2011 - 8:24am

Yeah, your right I guess I needed to hear that because I have been thinking about it to be honest. I so want to be done with the bm of this ss. I never would have guessed in a million years when i married him that she would have done all she has done. I do have 3 beautiful children with my husband. I had never been married before and neither had he. I had no kids coming into the marriage and he had 1 that likes to make our life crazy. Oh well, I can only hope and pray that it gets better as he will be 18 in 2 years.