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Submitted by Hollyann1789 on Thu, 11/03/2011 - 11:04pm

I'm at a loss. I don't even know what to do anymore. My sd3 throws a fit anytime something doesn't go her way. She can't get her shoes on she screams. Her dad won't wake up in the morning to get her cereal she screams. She can't have candy she screams. I'm not over exaggerating it's true. Some say that when she screams for cereal I should get up and get it for her, well I don't because I don't get to sleep much. Maybe six hours a night if i'm lucky between working and going to school. And with her being her and her dad never waking up I get maybe 4 hours, 5 if I'm really lucky. Her dad works a part time job, maybe 4-6 hours every evening. He's off and at home by 9pm every night. I don't see why he can't get up in the morning. I'm so exhausted, and this is going to sound bad, but she isn't my kid. I do share responsibility of taking care of her all the time, it's just I wish I could sleep in some days and that her dad would get up with her, instead of sleeping. When he is home all day and does nothing, not even help with house work. I this says it's a place for people to come to vent, and I know some may take this the wrong way or thing I'm mean. This is just how I'm feeling at the moment. And this site has helped me keep my sanity the past few days.

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Kes's picture

Submitted by Kes on Fri, 11/04/2011 - 3:53am

Agree with Echo about firmness and consistency - in a nice way, you MUST show small children who is the boss - if you let them get the upper hand you're stuffed.
I feel you have more of an issue with your partner - who is NOT pulling his weight, and you must tackle this now, or you will always be doing more than your share. You need to be very assertive, and let him know that his daughter is primarily his responsibility, although you share parenting. It's absolutely ridiculous that he does not get up to her in the morning, when you have sole care every evening.

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Submitted by Auteur on Fri, 11/04/2011 - 8:43am

Yep you need to show her that YOU have the upper hand and not her. Hopefully your parenting of SD won't stimulate lazy ass biodad to undermine you as they so often do. "You're being too harsh to my child" blah blah.

Tell her she wont' get ANYTHING by screaming. Let her scream all she wants to. Tell her that when she can speak in a quiet indoor voice, then you'll listen to her and not a moment sooner. If she is screaming for cereal at 5 am. she needs to be put back to bed. Let her scream. Get some earplugs. This type of behaviour should have been nipped in the bud before she turned 8 MONTHS old never mind 3 YEARS old. Hopefully you don't have a meddling PASinator BM in the picture either.

Watch the movie "The Miracle Worker" this weekend (the original with Patti Duke) You'll get an idea how Ms. Tantrum needs to be treated.

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Submitted by ctnmom on Fri, 11/04/2011 - 2:19pm

Are you the maid/nanny or the wife? Let him take care of his own damn kid! Tell him if you have to get up to stop her screaming you'll slap her mouth. If he doesn't get up, then do it. That screaming is ridiculous.