I actually blogged about this a while back. There is a girl that moved to our area over the summer. Her and my dd15 hit it off right away and spent a couple of months hanging out-problem free. Then school started and things seemed to go downhill. Both the girl and her mother would say insulting things to my dd15-that genuinely had her upset-girl has a trouled history-including a suicide attempt and she was alrady sexually active with her bf. As things went downhill, I encouraged my dd to just back away and she did for several months-then girl had another suicide attempt and dd15 sorta made up with her. She came over to spend the night over xmas break-the first time in some months.

The next day dd tells us that she had her bf meet her in the driveway in which she gave him a handjob. Then dd told us that she(her friend)also took a naked pic of herself and sent it to another boy whom's house she went over to the next day and had sex with. I told dd at that point its best just to keep the distance. Turns out, when they went back to school, this girl was at school telling people that my dd and her friend showed up at her house on nye's drunk. My dd and her friend went directly from our house to theirs that night and most certainly were not drunk.

So again I told dd to just stay away which she mostly has. However there have continued to be "runins". DD15 heard that this girl was telling others that dd's competitive cheer team sucked-just dumb girl stuff. This girl has gotten a very poor reputation-not related to dd-but because she does indeed sleep with a lot of boys, has lots of sucide attempts, and is just generally a drama queen. I know dd does not like her, but again generally stays away from her.

Today my dh gets a call from her father-saying that my dd is saying stuff about this girl at school causing problems-showed up there drunk. I am on fire. Dh has said now he's not sure that he said my dd was drunk, maybe it was the friend-but I am still on fire. This girl has continually been a problem for my dd, has behaved inappropriately in my home, has alot of disturbing behaviors, but her dad is going to call MY dd on the carpet? My dh just sort of went along with what he said-at least that is the impression he gave me.

I want to call or email these people. I feel like he purposely called dh as the mom tried to email last fall to explain why her dd was so "moody" toward my dd. I told her I felt my dd15 was generally old enough to handle issues on her own and I try to stay out of it and let her do so. So I feel like they thought they might get better results from dh. Ugh.

bottom line, I get that my dd has probably said a thing or two about this girl. I have no doubt she has said things about my dd. I have little to no doubt that 99.9 per cent of girls this age talk about one another from time to time. However, I feel like first of all he is claiming my dd has done something illegal (drinking) when again she has not even been to their home since 12/31 and I can swear she was not drinking so I feel like he is just engaging in spearding rumours like his dd is. I know it should not matter, but I think it is nuts all this stuff this girl has done and I've kept my mouth shut about, but because dd has talked about her here and there they are actually going to call dh? WTH?

So what would you all do? Keep your mouth shut and forget it all? Call and ask for clarification? Go in guns ablazing? A little side note is that I went to high school with this guy and he was acutally my prom date one year! So I do know him. I think his wife is a nutjob too and I see where the daughter gets teh behavior. so mostly I walk around feling sorry for him, but I feel like he is being manipulated by his dd to believe that MY daughter is somehow the cause of all her drama (which I know is ocmpletely not true)