How many have bm's popping up this weekend?
SS has not seen bm in about 4 months. Has only seen her maybe 3 times in the last year or so. But guess what? She's already called to ask for him this weekend and has even secured a ride to our meeting place. She wants to celebrate her maternal feelings on Mothers Day with her darling son whom I wish to God she'd just take back. But she doesnt want him effing up her life,so she just sees him a couple of times a year. Lovely. SS14 will get teh opportunity to talk trash about me and mine this weekend, about how mistreated he is (my bitch ass stepmom hides the peanut butter from me!) (My dad makes me do chores!) (My stepsister is more popular than me-and that's not fair!) (My stepbrother makes straight A's and never does any homework! He shouldnt get away with that!) BM and his sister will coo and coddle him and then send him back at the end of the weekend with a more heinous attitude than the one he left with.
Oh well. At least it gives me a whole blessed weekend away from him-which is frankly the best mother's day gift I could ever have.
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BM Nasty will most certainly
BM Nasty will most certainly NOT be making an appearance...that would mean that she would be more involved than ONE week (or less) per year. Last year, I suggested that the SKids call their BM & wish her a Happy Mother's day...they left her a message & she never even called them back.
At least you won't have your SS with you while you're trying to celebrate Mother's Day with your peeps
LOL- our BM is claiming
LOL- our BM is claiming Thursday and Sunday - I guess she has been so good she gets 2 Mother's Day celebrations.
2 skid free days for me so who am I to complain.
btw - Thursday is Mothers Day in Mexico so she is taking it in addition.
I just choked laughing...
I just choked laughing... Yeah - BM started ramping up her "need" to talk with her son when she realized MD was right around the corner. I am pretty sure if she calls, SS12 will tell her to eff off. Sad but true. And to make matters worse - he will also ram my presence down her throat and tell her that he's spending the day with his step-mom, the mom who steps up!
Hismine... every cloud has a silver lining and the smack talking about everyone is the cloud - the silver lining - SS FREE WEEKEND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
oh, I know-it will be worth
oh, I know-it will be worth it. It just boggles my mind that she has such a big set of balls (she is sort of manly so maybe it shouldnt)that she only gets her kid for "events" in which she can pretend she is an awesome mother.
And I would think that at 14, my ss would have figured it out and told her to eff off as well-but he just laps it up-never even seeming to question her apparent lack of interest and financial support of him.
Yup BM didn't ask, didn't
Yup BM didn't ask, didn't plead, but DEMANDED the kids this weekend via her atty. hasn't seen or had any contact with them since Christmas.
Don't I wish. She will be
Don't I wish. She will be seeing SS but she only wants to see him for brunch (my word, not hers...she has no idea what that is) she wants him gone by Noon on Sunday...which means she will be getting him at around 10am have him with her for no more than an hour, then realize that her son is an A**HOLE, and call DH demanding that he come get him right now "she can't stand him"(her words not mine. I perfer to say she hates him, just like everyone but DH who has ever encountered him)
Ugh. We havent seen or heard
Ugh. We havent seen or heard from BM since ss' birthday in March. Before that it was Christmas. We still haven't heard from her, but there is no doubt in my mind that come the day before mother's day we WILL be hearing from her royal highness.
Our BM *MIGHT* get the skids.
Our BM *MIGHT* get the skids. However, this will be the first time in... at least 6 months or so that she's taken them on a weekend. No idea when/if/how long she'll want them. So far we haven't heard anything about it. Though going from past history she'll say something along the lines of, she wants a kid-free weekend (which is EVERY weekend for her, heaven forbid she give up boozing and partying over the weekend to see her children) as her Mother's Day "gift". Same story with her birthday.
Though (LOVE double standards) when it's Father's Day/DH's birthday/MY birthday, "the kids should be with you, they should spend time with you on [...] day.
Wow. I hadn't thought about
Wow. I hadn't thought about this yet. SS15 has been living with us for about 3 months now and only saw his BM once during that time while at his Grandma's for Easter, despite the fact that she lives only a few houses away. A couple other times she showed up at our door and he wouldn't speak to her.
So far SO hasn't pushed him to see her because all the things she has done (lying, drugs, selling SS's belongings, fighting, getting arrested, etc)are still fresh for SS. But BM has started trying to insist on seeing him and he's probably too young to make a decision right now, especially in hurt and anger, about writing his mother off. I suppose for mothers's day she will demand he visits. I feel so bad for him. There is at least one really good skid out there in the world, and he's it. I've always liked and cared for him, but I just realized how super attached I've gotten to him in the last few months. I'm getting an actual lump in my throat typing this, thinking about him being stuck seeing her and how much I don't want that.
SD, or miniature BM, can just go ahead and have a fun ol' time with BM as far as I'm concerned.
Edited to add: shame on SO for not addressing visitation with BM through family court when SS first came to live here.
BM has no visitation but may
BM has no visitation but may request a visit through the GAL which my DH must approve of. Every single year that woman has dumped her kids off with their father for her Mother's Day Off. Now her family keeps trying to butt in. One of her sister's invited my SDs over for lunch and dinner with their mom on Sunday. I told my DH no fuggin way! She is an egg donor, not a mother! This is my Mother's Day too and my life has been turned upside-down the last year! So we decided to go out of town for the weekend, enjoy the sun and let the kiddos all play and have fun in the sun. The other sister is pissed now too, saying BM may have Fd up but it's a slap in her face to not let her see her kids on Mother's Day. Then the sister hosting the lunch/dinner decided to be sneaky, cuz I must have IDIOT written on my forehead, and invited the girls over for a sleepover Friday night! Um ya, sorry, they were already invited to a sleepover Friday night! The funny thing is, BM has not texted, called or emailed my DH or the GAL about seeing the girls on Sunday! Go figure. Model mother.
SS-19's SpermIdiot never made
SS-19's SpermIdiot never made an appearance for F-Day or any other day or event.
The kid never called him or sent a card either. DickHead trained the kid how to treat him and that is how the kid treated him and still treats him. DipShit was never more than a video game buddy for a few days on visitation. Out of 7wks of visitation per year my son maybe saw his SpermIdiot on a portion of 7 days. The rest of the visitation the kid was with either the SpermGrandParents or SpermGreatGrandParents.
This started when the Skid was 1yo and never changed for the entire duration of the Custody/Visitation/Support CO.
As sad as this is, with half of his gene pool as shallow and polluted as the SpermClan half of his gene pool is I have to say it is a good thing.
I on the other hand .... get a call or a card every F-Day.