Why does he do this? Can someone explain? He had being doing so well disengaging from his extremely dysfunctional family. Maybe more so than me. Then, we get a check in the mail. He has the same name as fil. Fil did some contract work for a local company that my dd also happens to work for-so they evidently paired his/dh's name with our address and sent this check to him. my thought was to send it back to the company and let them correct their mistake.

But, no, he says he needs to do the "right" thing and just call fil and let him know. Well, of course fil doesnt take his call. So he tries bil. Bil accepts the call and in their 2 minute conversation-dh explains the error and asks him to have fil call about what to do with the check. (bil resides with fil and said they were both home at the time) so hours pass and still no return call from fil. So then dh decides to call mil. Who acts like nothing is wrong and that the last time she spoke to him 6 weeks ago she didnt tell him he was a pos. He delivers the same polite message-please have fil call me about what to do with this check. Finally the next day, bil calls back and says that fil just wants him to stick it in our mailbox and he will pick it up.

So, we did and it's been picked up. But dh really felt that they would appreciate him "doing the right thing". Instead, his own father would not even call him back regarding the matter. In his brief conversations, with his mother and brother-they did not pat him on the back either. I told him that my guess, is that they were somehow suspicious that we, or even my dd, were trying to set them up somehow and that ultimately we would all be blamed for the check coming to our house in the first place.

So dh spent the weekend upset and feeling disappointed. Said he'd at least like a "cordial" relationship with his parents, but apparently that is not possible. Well, no duh-it's not possible.