So I have a friend who is super sweet...tonight we talked about guys and I told her to NEVER EVER get involved with a guy with kids. She seemed puzzled. I began to explain to her WHY. She then said she had a friend who had a child and was married to a guy with 2 PITA kids. She then tells me that her friend reprimanded one of the kids and SHE, as the psychologist OF COURSE told her "you have ONE kid and it is X, the other two are NOT your kids...their FATHER should be doing the disciplining" I almost DIED of laughter...then I told her..."what would YOU do if my son went to your home and spilled a drink on the couch you had just bought? What would you do if my child went to your house and stole something from YOU? What would you do if my child went to your house, you said hi and he gave you a dirty look and just continued to stay in YOUR house playing with things YOU had bought? " Of course, her answer was "I would tell him that he couldn't do X or Y or Z...and that if he couldn't behave, he could not longer come over...Then I said "guess what I would say to you..." something like "that's NOT your child, that is MY child...do not discipline MY child...even if he is in YOUR home"... The look on her face was PRICELESS. I also then said, "you know how you tell me to not let my kid play too much with X because he is a PITA and sadly kids sometimes pick up on bad stuff from other kids? Imagine if that kid lived in MY home and you told me that because he wasn't MY kid I could not discipline him but I had to continue to allow him to play with my son and influence MY son..."

I told her "every psychologist I have ever met claims that the kids come first, that blood is thicker than water...yet, do you EVER remember your dad putting your WANTS, ie. I want to go to X restaurant, I want to go NOW, blah, blah...before YOUR mother's wants? Of course she said "NO, of course not...my mom came first" to which I responded...that's funny, because YOU are a blood relative to your dad, but your mom is NOT...and yes, it seems that once people are divorced the new spouse is JUST THE SPOUSE and the because kid and dad are blood related, wife no longer comes first...imagine how long YOUR mother would have lasted if your dad took YOU where YOU wanted to go every single time without caring what SHE wanted.

Needless to say, my great psychologist friend had no answers. So much for the BS they taught her at school.