Write them off. The stepdad could have directed somebody even an aide to let him know if he wanted him to know.

I wouldn't say my MIL is evil, but she is annoying at the least. Another one who talks about God all the time, goes to Bible studies, church, blah blah blah (nothing wrong with any of this mind you) BUT she is the biggest gossip hound trouble maker I have ever known. She can't help herself! She is literally on the phone ALL day long, gossiping about anybody and everybody. DH says she has always been like this, DH can't stand her.

Now BM2? Evil! She goes to her cult church... class... whatever they call it place like 3 times a week and is the most vile, nasty witch you could ever meet. I would love to print off some of her text messages and Voice mails to DH for her little cult buddies that she puts on such a good show for.

I agree with oldone... write them off.. be done with them. They are not going to change

Yeah-I think we have the same inlaws. Same issues. Almost to a T. My dh's family are losers-truly. Nonworking-addicts for the most part-big pot smokers-dh wanted something more out of life-nothing really to do with me-as he had a career before he even met me-so he already sort of was the black sheep simply for choosing a different sort of lifestyle-but then he met me and that really sealed the deal. I'm a stuck up snob apparently who thinks I am better than them. Actually, they are wrong I dont think I am better-I know I am better.

My dh doesnt communicate with them anymore. His sister opened a bunch of credit cards in his name-had things shipped to her house (it wasnt even subtle or sneaky)-he asked her to repay him and he'd close the accounts-but she refused and threatened him-so he finally reported the cards as fraudulent. all of his family decided he was a POS for being a "snitch". they bonded her out of jail, pay for her attorney,support her and call him names and essentailly refuse to speak to him unless they are playing games. So hes done. Hasnt spoke to his sister since maybe August of last year. Has spoke to his father once in the last year-after he left a message about what a pos dh was. Bil called in December asking for money-after not speaking to dh for 5 months-when dh turned him down bil said dh was making his kids starve and freeze to death. They are just a bunch of nuts. So hes done.

Dh's step-grandmother is in the hospital right now for a stroke she had early this week. What I could gather from snooping on facebook-it doesnt look good for her. Noone in the family contacted dh. Some of the other grandkids have been up there sitting with her-my dh's immediate family members have poisoned everyone in the family-aunts, uncles, cousins, etc-so no one bothered to call him. I told him the other day after I saw it on facebook-his stepgrandma is acutally an ok lady-and he feels bad for her, but, he's still saying away from that mess.

It's really the only way to go. Tell him he needs to cut them out of your lives.

By the way, they have directed their bs at my kids as well-just like your situation. This was absolutely it for me. Never in a million years would I have anything to do with them, allow them in my home, or around my children EVER again. I'm done completely.

I agree with oldone. My first marriage, my MIL was a church going bitch to me. She said some pretty nasty things to me and then would get the whole fucking family in on it. Before you knew everyone was an asshole to me. My X, and not her "favorite" child, was a freaking wimp, and wouldn't stand up to her.

When I divorced her cheating ass son, I was a bad person (like I was ever good in her eyes) for doing it. I was the happiest I have ever been when I dumped him and that whole dysfunctional bunch.

I know this is difficult for DH, but respect is a two way street. If they can't be respectful of him and his family, then he needs to rid himself of the toxicity this woman brings. All he can do is focus on his family and not repeat the mistakes his mother made. In the end he will be richer in love, family and relationships.

I too hate evil people that use religion as some sort of weapon.

I will say my inlaws definitely dont do that. They do not attend Church and like to imply that there is something wrong with dh and I because we do (we attend a regular old Methodist Church-nothing crazy or out there)-in fact mil would not bring ss to visits with us as she promised she would because they were on Sundays and she did not want to us to make him go to Church.

I can't stand my MIL either she's a hypocritical bible thumper as well.