I didn't relate this story earlier because I felt like an ass.

I volunteer at the animal shelter from 12-4:30 every Saturday, which is already a point of contention between FDH and I; he thinks I spend too much time there. Last Saturday I had a really stressful time volunteering (obnoxious families, too many animals, dirty everything, people arguing over the same animal). I also hadn't gone to the gym much and I was stressed. So when I got off at 4:30 I called and was tired, asked what he wanted for dinner, he said he didn't know (ALWAYS his response, so frustrating when I'm tired), I said if he didn't know I might go somewhere for a while. I didn't say where, but I meant the gym. He told me to do whatever I want and hung up.

I was too tired to argue with him, so I just went home to resolve it. On my way home my friend called. She lives on the other side of the country and we are so busy that we rarely call each other. So when I got home I sat on the porch and talked to her for a good half hour before I went inside. As I was getting off the phone with her FDH came walking out of the house with the kids looking like he could kill me. He was halfway down the street and wouldn't listen to me calling him, asking WTF. I stomped in the house, put down my phone, considered driving away, noticed that we suddenly had a washer and dryer, then decided to run after them. I finally caught up and he was PISSED. He wouldn't talk to me and kept walking. The kids were talking to me though. I asked them what they did. They said they got a washer and dryer for us. FSD gave me a bracelet (she had a matching one). FDH wouldn't stop walking. Finally I grabbed his arm hard and he told the kids to sit on a bench. Apparently I could go wherever the F I liked, How could I sit on the phone talking to some dude (what?), I didn't even say hello (ok, I didn't). I told him I meant I wanted to go to the gym, I was talking to my friend (FEMALE), and you could have said hello too. He looked a little deflated but was still very pissed. He walked away from me at that point and the FSS followed him. FSD tried to stay with me but I told her to go with her dad. I don't think they heard us arguing, but they could tell we were upset. I didn't want to cry in front of them all so I went to the grocery store bathroom and balled a bit. I was just so tired and confused. This was an unnecessary misunderstanding.

After a while I walked home. FDH was on the porch. He was angry because I didn't answer my phone. I didn't have it; I left it in the house. I went to take a shower. FDH made some remark to me and we started talking in the bathroom. He was a little more subdued. Then FSS4 showed up at the door and offered me a bunch of flowers. Mind you, I was pretty upset still. Also, this is something FDH does (pick me flowers). I figured they were from FDH. I told FSS to put them on the counter. Then FDH blew up at me because apparently the flowers were from FSS. He picked them on the way home because he saw I was sad.

I felt like an ass. At the same time, I didn't know. How was I supposed to know a 4 year old would think to do that? FDH was really sticking it to me though. He said so many mean things, but I think he was hurt for FSS. It's not like I spit on the flowers or anything. I just told him to put them on the counter. I did feel really bad about it though.

FDH and I got over our little spat. It happens. I'm still really amazed though that FSS thought of that. I hugged him a lot that night.