We had the kids this weekend. It was actually a great weekend, and FSS was particularly sweet with me. All was well, or so we thought.

Sunday night FDH and I were cooking dinner when BM called. He answered and the first words out of her mouth were "You need to get your f--king house bombed." BM claims that FSD's back is covered in bites, which she noticed while she was giving her a bath. FDH didn't say much, but they hung up quickly. He was very quiet, meaning he was very angry. I said that I doubted she was covered in bites, and asked if FSS had any. FDH was still being quiet. He went into the next room and called BM back. All I heard was him ask if FSS had any bites, a pause, then him yell "F--k you bi--h" and hang up. I guess when he asked if FSS had any bites she said "No, but that's three strikes motherf--ker, you're going back to court."

FDH was really, really angry for a while and I just let him go smoke and be angry on the porch. He finally came back and apologized, but he said he is tired of fighting with this woman. After four years, what more does she want from me? Three strikes, what am I, a criminal? Who the hell has she been talking to to even get these ideas? Why does she have to turn everything into a court battle? I'm so done playing with her.

Let me rant a bit, because I didn't to FDH....
- Okay, first of all, way to start off a conversation lady. Seriously, if she had some bite marks, how about talking about it without immediately starting an argument?
- Secondly, I highly doubt that she was "covered" in bites. She was with us all weekend and she never complained about bites (and kids ALWAYS make a fuss about itchy bites), and I never saw her scratching. Also, BM is a major hypochondriac; she sends the kids over with medicine when they "seem" sick (which they are not). Our house is very clean. We do have cats, and I use the Advantage on them monthly. I won't guarantee that they have zero fleas, but I seriously doubt that there's enough to cause a nuisance let alone harm to anyone. And I just washed the kids' bedding last week.
- Thirdly, FSD just took a shower Sunday morning. I know she's come over before after days of not showering, so why the heck did she need two in one day? Do you have an issue with my shampoo or something? Also, FSD is 9 years old. She does not need you to give her a bath.
- Finally, how in the hell does this constitute anything you could take to court? Do you just love filing pointless paperwork and having your mom pay the lawyer's retainer? FDH pays every time, on time. FDH is a GOOD father and he would do anything for the kids; the kids respect him and he teaches them good values. They eat healthy meals at our house, brush their teeth, shower, have clean clothes, and go to bed at a reasonable hour. The kids never complain about being at our house, even when they're upset; I've never heard them say they want to go to their mom's house in a moment of anger (though I have heard them beg to stay longer with their dad). What exactly is there that she can complain about? What does she want? Why is there such a giant stick up her anus?

Sorry, I just don't understand why this woman thinks FDH is so horrible that he deserves to be in court all the time.

FDH said he is tired of bending the rules to make it easier, because even though he's doing it for the kids she is completely taking advantage of it. No more taking the kids out of the county without his permission (that's in the papers). No more going to grandma's on FDH's weekends. No more pick-up/drop-off at BM's house or BM's BF's house--public places only. And FDH said he's going to ask for a CS reduction. He might get it too, considering his financial situation has changed significantly. If anything, maybe it will scare her. Too bad it won't scare her into working a job. That would take an act of God.