Bio Kids vs SKids and Bedrooms...

DH and I have a little one on the way in the summer. We have 3 bedrooms upstairs in our home and one bedroom on the ground floor. Two of our upstairs bedrooms are the exact same size (Master bedroom and SD6's room) - the other bedroom is smaller.

Here is my dilemma - we could use the smaller room to be our baby's nursery but when the crib, dresser, chest, rocker, and ottoman go in there - there will be literally NO room to do much of anything. SD6 sleeps over 2 nights a MONTH. I feel that she needs to move to the smaller room and make the larger room the nursery as I will be up every few hours nursing my baby and to be in that room multiple times a day and unable to walk around bc its so cramped, it is unfair to the child that will be here 24/7. KWIM? DH thinks that the baby can suffice in the smaller room for 2 years. But if I am going to be nursing in that room every few hours - I'd like to be comfortable too.

I don't want to have SD6 feel 'put out' but honestly, if she needs to move to the smaller room when our baby is 1 or 2 bc our baby is outgrowing that room - do you think it would freak her out even more then?

Eventually we hope she wants to move downstairs but at 6,7, or 8 I wouldn't feel comfortable having her down there all alone and sharing a room is completely out of the question. She sleeps with her light on and TV on at night and for 2 nights a month I don't want to ruin whatever routine we get established.

TIA for any responses.

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I think if you make it a

I think if you make it a "special" move rather than about size you can pull it off. How about if you let her pick a new color and have dh paint it for her and maybe special curtains, etc...

We have 4 bedrooms and hoping for more children. SD is in the smallest room and I have no intentions of letting her move because she isn't here all the time. DH was okay with that. We just repainted and he asked if we should put her in a bigger room and I just said "why, she isn't complaining?" We let her pick her paint and she is totally happy in there and if we have more kids and she gets older and complains about room size, I will politely explain to her that she chose the paint for her room AND she has two bedrooms (one at our home and one at her mother's home) so that is why she has the small room. I think people worry too much about "putting skids out". I don't think we should treat them badly, but I don't think we should otherwise cater to them either. Why have a large room sit empty while fall all over yourself in a tiny room everyday? That would be putting you and your new child out, wouldn't it?

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We dealt with a similar

We dealt with a similar situation when be bought our new house.. my BS's 11 and 6 got their own rooms, we had ours and we had one more bedroom, we have a 9 mo old (6 mo at the time) and DH daughter... He wanted to put the baby in with my BS6.. and give SD a room of her own, she is only here every other weekend.. This made absolutely no sense to me, we had a couple debates over this and he finally agreed to sleep her in the room with the baby.. Now I really regret this too because she has hurt the baby several times on purpose and I am now forced to sleep him in our room in a playpen when she is here.. In my opinion your baby should get the bigger room, as it will be there more and have more stuff to store at your house..

My plan is to have her pick

My plan is to have her pick out new carpet, new paint, curtains and slowly move her into that room once it is all done up for her. I think its completely the route to go.

My point exactly about being squished in a tiny room while the larger room is sitting empty 28 nights/month.

DH and I are going to measure the bedroom tonight - with the crib, etc measurements to show that its not going to fit comfortably. And I think DH will see it (as most men need to 'see it' rather than talk about it)... Any other points to use? Thanks

My plan is to have her pick

My plan is to have her pick out new carpet, new paint, curtains and slowly move her into that room once it is all done up for her. I think its completely the route to go.

My point exactly about being squished in a tiny room while the larger room is sitting empty 28 nights/month.

Tell him he can nurse every

Tell him he can nurse every other night too then. You'll be sure to wake him when it's his turn with a bottle of pumped milk at 1am. Since it's not a big deal that you're cramped in a small room to nurse, then it shouldn't be a big deal for him to either. Then yell out as he's walking in the nursery "Hooonneeey, be careful not to bump into the walls!" ***grin***

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Do you spend most of your

Do you spend most of your time upstairs? I know when I had my last baby Once we woke up and got ready, we all went down stairs for the day except nap time. So I set up a baby station on the first floor too. I had two babies, in cribs, we only went back upstairs to nap( because my water bed was comfortable) LOL and then again at bed time. And I nursed all mine.

What about setting up a baby station( crib , changing table, clothes diapers etc) in the downstairs bedroom too? You could use that during the day and the bigger room in the evening upstairs, you could add a small dorm refrigerator like I did..too..in nursery., for drinks, snacks, etc? IF you are having a C-section you really don't want to be running up and down stairs all day & night.

I agree, if SD is only there 2 days /nights a month your wasting space. I would allow her to redecorate/pick out everythings, for the smaller room, and explain to her why, encluding, that she has another bedroom at BM house, besides yours!

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