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POLL: how far away do the skids live from you?

happymostly's picture

and if its pretty far, how does your dh/SO/you deal with the distance, emotionally? Is your dh/SO/you sad, wish you lived closer, or are you secretly happy that its far away? Does your dh/SO see them often?

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on the fence's picture

From home about an hour and a half drive, but he works pretty close. Fine for the friday p/u, but sunday night is a pain. I normally wool not go.

tofurkey's picture

lol this was going to be my response "not far enough". I am counting down the days where DH and I will be living thousands of miles away in paradise. Away from the b.s....

GoodbyeNormaJean's picture

2 live with us. The other one is 50/50 and she's literally two blocks from us. We transition every Friday usually.

When we first got together, we lived about 2 1/2 hours away, but her mom moved an hour closer and we moved the rest of the way. I already owned a house in this town, but I was renting one farther away because I didn't want to live in town. I liked that better. When we lived in that house, we worked in this one, and BM drove here to do transition. We NEVER told her where we lived or gave her my address. It was so nice. This is better for DH and SD3.5, but I like my space and my downtime. Plus, I lived in a *tiny* town, which is right up my alley. It was so great.

astra's picture

6 hours, and we see SS almost every other weekend. Honestly, I wish BM lived in the same place as us. She's not really crazy, just selfish, and less driving would be so nice (we do all the driving, and did even when we lived in the same place).

into the mystic's picture

About 30 minutes away, but one of us will drive to a drop off point halfway, so only about 15 minutes then. He wishes she lived with him, but right now she doesn't want to leave her mom all by herself. *gag*

Tx mommy of 3's picture

2 hours and ss visits eoweekend. Plus extended time in summer and some holidays. Dh does the drive by himself & it wears him out. We don't have a preference about living closer or not. If dh got a job closer, we'd move. Not for ss though, mostly because all our family would be closer- my parents, in-laws, etc. I don't think I'd want to live farther away because it would actually mean we'd have ss MORE- YUCK!!! If we lived farther then we'd only see ss once a month but get him EVERY spring break, EVERY TG, EVERY Christmas and an even longer time in the summer. So no thank you!

instantfamily's picture

Custodial here, and BM is two states away (thank God!). If she were closer, I would not be a SM. I would not put up with her any closer.

caregiver1127's picture

Same here I always say that if I lived in the same state as BM - I would be a SM but one that would be serving 25 to life - lol

16 hours by car and 2 hours by plane - we see SS 4 weeks of the year due to school and that he is a teenager and only will spend 2 weeks with us during the summer because he missed his friends.

caregiver1127's picture

NO we can't - but you can take Grandpa with you for 6 months - that is what I live now - no SS but a 90 year old man - I really don't know what is worse!!

Frustrated New Wife's picture

15 hours away. It is hard for DH to remain close with SS through the phone and it is hard for me to get to know SS better being so far away. Everytime we take vacation, we get SS