bm makes me mad
bm here is like alot of bms that i've read about on this site. Only thinks about herself and doesnt care what dh wants for sd. Doesnt care that he tries calling sd like every other day just to get no answer. She will only answer if she needs to tell him something or to ask him to watch sd for an extra day on his weekends. Dh's lawyer sucks too. they are trying to get a permanent order and dh wants more time/ joint custody and its taking forevverrrrr. He wont ever answer's dh's calls anymore. dh recently moved closer to sd so he can have her more (hasnt happened yet! of course bm wont let him have her extra time, even though he is supposed to have 2 weeks of summer vacation -has had one so far- told him he needs to tell her soon that he wants sd for another week, its in the court order!)
Dh is such a good dad too. Not a guilty daddy and he actually parents her and works with her on her words she needs to know for first grade. He says that when he was working on it with her last time she didnt do as good as before (when he had her for 10 days straight) because bm probably isnt working with her on them everyday (if at all!) sd says she doesnt want to leave either. breaks my heart that sd has to go thru this crap with bm, just because bm wants to use sd as a paycheck from her 'supposed disability' whatthefuckever!
Im glad bm doesnt try to cause drama for me, she just ignores me which is fine shes just such a bitch to dh. I wont ever do to dh what she is doing if we ever split up, which i dont think we will, but still just seeing how she is treating sd and him just makes me sick. and i might be pregnant so its like extra frustrating waiting to see if I am or not! im done rambling about useless information now just needed to get it out!
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I go through the same thing
I go through the same thing with my stepsons mother. She could care less about his education, hygiene, etc. All she wants is so called "control" over my husband and a monthly paycheck from my husband to fund her habit of buying expensive handbags. We buy all of his clothes as well and she could care less if she sends him out of the house in clothes that are too small, etc.
Wow- this is an all to common
Wow- this is an all to common problem as step mothers, dealing with douche bag BMs. I've noticed that with our "baby's mamma's drama" -she is nuttier than a fruitcake, superficial, materialistic and yes- gives a rats ass about the rearing of her children.
I TOTALLY GET IT! But what is it with women who dont want the man yet dont want you to have him either??
Oh mine is the exact
Oh mine is the exact opposite. She wants my husband so bad she can't stand it! She comes up with any reason to talk to him, ask what we are doing, etc. Things that have nothing to do with their child. She tried for many years to break us up but gave up "somewhat" after we got married and she found a boyfriend, after 5 years!!!
Well, let me re-phrase...she
Well, let me re-phrase...she SAYS she doesn't want him, however, the fact that she is so hateful and jealous towards me and our relationship, tells me otherwise.
I have come to the conclusion
I have come to the conclusion that she will NEVER get over my husband and that she will always be hateful and jealous when it comes to our relationship. I kill her with kindness but she knows deep down inside that I don't agree with her parenting style or lack thereof.
As of right now she is so wrapped up in her new boyfriend that she could care less what her son is doing with us this summer, as long as we put him on the plane to come back to her at the end of the summer with all of his brand new school clothes, shoes, school supplies, etc.
My husband pays a hefty amount of NON court ordered child support and also provides her the documentation to allow her to claim the amount we pay for child care during the summer on her taxes.
My stepson begs to live with us and she has told him that he can't decide that until he is 12.