After reading all the responses I decided to go and meet her on Friday after work and before I have to pick up SD16 from cheer practice. That way I only have a limited amount of time to chat with her. When I called her back I told her that I was step mom (she knew) and that I would be happy to meet with her.

As far as the kids having sex goes...No one can ever say for certain but I know at our house and Tubby's house they are restricted to main living areas. However, I am not foolish enough to think that it won't or hasn't happened.

I was talking to SD16 about the coffee date and she told me that Tubby's mom is very strict and controlling. She told me the reason she never asks DH or I to drive them anywhere is because Tubby’s mom insists on doing all of the driving which I will confirm on Friday. SD16 also told me when she goes to his house to hang out they usually have his mom as company the entire time they are hanging out. She even likes to take a turn on the video game they are playing.

I talked to DH about this to see if he felt weird that I am going even though I am not her parent and he was so thankful that he doesn't have to go he did a little jig in the kitchen. SD16 lives with us full time and if you read one of my previous blogs you will know that BM is a little off kilter. SD16 honestly felt pleased that I was going instead of her BM.