Ex-bf still playing games
I got a call today. The poor excuse for a man I got engaged to then walked away from wants me to understand he needs to be there for his daughter and he promised to be home alone with her. But that changes nothing, he still loves me and wants to be with me as before. Told him off and told him the only person that can't see how much his daughter is manipulating him is him. I'm pissed now and can't sleep. Ugh, I should have known better. At least I can give myself credit for telling him he's giving in to his guilt and allowing her to rule his life. Why can I not just not answer the phone? Ugh, I'm a glutton for punishment.
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Btw his daughter is 15 and
Btw his daughter is 15 and will be 16 in less than 4 months. I'm so sick of all this. I mean what normal child at that age calls anyone and everyone she can crying for them to come save her because she is home alone for 5 mins. But she won't call her dad who is less than 1 block away. Pathetic in my book. Even more pathetic is him giving in to her.
I don't understand the
I don't understand the context of him being home with her.. is it overnight? is it in lieu of him doing something he had planned with you?
His daughter is still a minor.. he might not be comfortable with her being home alone overnight. You said her mom is trying to have her labeled with a mental disability.. there is always the chance that is not as much of a lie as you think. Maybe his daughter does have emotional limitations.. I know it would pain you to have to admit that some of her actions may not have been as intentional as you want to think.. but she could be mentally unfit.
But... mental illness or not.. that doesn't mean YOU have to be part of the S Show. He broke up with you.. he had issues.. said he was changing.. you just needed to support him.. then back to kind of seeing him.. now you have again walked away.
You need to block his number.. and break it off without the wishy washy list of issues.. that if only things were different.
You need to tell him that no amount of change on his part or his daughter's will fix the relationship. You are DONE.. and tell him to not call you any more. You cannot be his friend.. you cannot be his booty call... nothing. it is over.
Yes, the being home alone
Yes, the being home alone with her is in lieu of our scheduled plan we have had since b4 she moved in. And the act is so much an act because she doesn't have these problems unless he is with me. It doesn't matter if we were at his house with her or she refused to come with us where we were going. She was just fine as long as he is with someone that kisses her as** like his ex-gf did. She just does not want me near her dad even when she is not home.
Not my problem, I'm out and staying out. Even if she moves back with BM I'm tired of it all. Not going there.
For example, we had tickets
For example, we had tickets to the Symphony just the 2 of us. She was supposed to be at bm all weekend. She decided to stay home instead and got all nasty because we still went to the Symphony just the 2 of us. She had those tickets for over a month but she expected him to stay home alone with him instead. Yet she does not have any of these issues when she gets her own way. I have see her not have any problems for days then all of a sudden she gets mad because she didn't get her own way and starts claiming she has these issues everyday and her dad is neglecting her. She gives her dad zero respect and then claims abuse if she was told how she is disrespectful. She cares more about her cat than her father keeping his job and not getting hurt. I can't watch it anymore.
If it's over and you're done
If it's over and you're done with him block and delete him from all avenues of him contacting you. He and his daughter are no longer relevant to you. This will allow you to move on and not have to entertain his nonsense.
Move on and live your best life, you stated where you stand so there is no reason for you to even respond to him....it's a done deal! Wishing you happy beginnings OP, you deserve it.
he still loves me and wants
he still loves me and wants to be with me as before.
Tell him you are not interested, "as before" was not all that great.
Text Mesage
I didn't respomd to let you know right off the bat but he sent me a text message. Apparently his daughter is now accusing him of calling her a "slut" on top of the accusation that he "beat" her. I swear he is never going to learn until she has him arrested on false charges. I just wish he would stop trying to communicate with me. I'm sure this will end soon as long as he gets no response but in the mean time I think it makes him feel better to tell me this stuff. It's all weird, I know.
It's good that you aren't
It's good that you aren't responding, there is no sense in letting him drag you into his drama.
just venting
I still need a place to let out all the frustration this BS causes me because I can't let him see it bothers me. I just do not want to hear any of it anymore. Not my problem, Don't want to know about it. Like last night when he text me to let me know his daughter thinks she is going to fail 10th grade and have to repeat. So what? It does not affect my life in the least?
PS- I did good and did not respond tot he text
Why haven't you blocked him
Why haven't you blocked him that way you don't have to read this utter nonsense?
Block, delete and GHOST his @ss already!