My DH and I have been married for 4 years. I have 4 kids who live with us (now 20,17,16, 3)and his daughter is now 7. When we first got together I liked her and liked being around her but ever since we had a daughter together, now 3, I do not enjoy being around his daughter and dread his weekends of visitation. I just don't see her as my child. I resent the $1,100 a month he has to pay her mother in support. I know she is only a little girl and I feel bad because he only gets to see her twice a month for 1 overnight each time because of his work and how far away she lives. We are looking to buy a new house and we can't move to where I really want to go because we have to stay near his daughter. I hate that all this resentment gets in the way of even tolerating her visits. I try to change how I feel. I want to talk to my husband about this but he gets very upset at the thought of me not totally loving and adoring his daughter. I just don't think marriage instantly creates a bond and that I may never love his daughter the way he does. He gets along good with my 3 children from previous marriage. I feel really bad about how I feel about my SD. and when she's not around I feel I can change my thinking, but as soon as he comes home with her I just get tense and stressed out.