I am new. I think I visited this site several years ago as a guest and found it helpful. I just don't know where to start. It has been a 10 year nightmare as a stepmother.it is such a long sordid story I just can't get into. I am a stepmother to 2 boys age 14 and 19. Their mother has been poisoning them for the entire 10 years I have been in their lives. She has been using Parental Alienation on them the entire 10 years. I don't think she has spoken the truth once to them.it seems at this point in time she has been successful.they both hate me and blame me for all the problems in the family.i have been nothing but kind and generous with myself and my time.sacrificed for them by not working and being a stay at home mom for them and my daughter.( She is our daughter,they share same dad) so anyway,the mother has managed to poison them to the point there is no longer a relationship between any of us. She has said horrible things to these kids about me. None true. How do I let go and move on?it is so hurtful to me.We live in a fairly small town. All my friends say not to worry because anyone that knows me/us, knows these things are just lies. We are good, honest people,doing the best we know how.how to disengage without guilt? I know this is vague,but this is a 10 year long saga,that I am so ready to be done with. I started reading Stepmonster and wow! It is so sad that there are so many of us going through this craziness! I only have one acquaintance that has a similar situation.thankfully my friends are so sympathetic.i will take all advice.thank you