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I actually want BM to find this and see things from our perspective. I am inclined to believe that she has because I put a link to this site from myspace, which is how she tracked my thoughts before. She currently does not want to speak to me directly. Early on when I 1st met my FSS, BM actually showed him pictures of me from myspace, saying, "Is this the woman your father is with?" At that point, the poor kid said I was not.
Anyway, I probably should watch what I say here. I will say this, having read a lot here, I am finding my situation to be not quite so bad.
I'm glad I found this place. I do wish that there were more positive stories out there but if things are going well, why rant? I have an idea for a survey,
Do you know other step parents who have healthy relationships?
My answer is yes, and yes, if everyone is of sound mind and body not only is it possible but it is in the best interest of all concerned to learn to relate civilly to each other.
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I have several friends
Who are or have been stepparents, stepchildren, etc. I find it immensely rewarding to talk to them because they have been in my situation. They universally agree that things don't have to be the way they are. All of them agree husband lets SD get away with murder and sets no limits. Some of them have even told him as much to his face. Unfortunately, he is the kind of person who will never listen to what anyone else says to him if it contradicts what he thinks.
The good news is, yes, there are lots of healthy, happy step relationships out there. Naturally, they would not be on this site...
I myself have a relatively
I myself have a relatively good relationship with SD. Sure, we have our issues...but I think most of her bahaviour is normal 10-year old stuff, and not anything unusual.
I've decided I need to just focus on my own little family circle...me, DH, SD, and baby coming in August. Anything to do with BM is just not my concern at this point. There's no other way for me to stay sane!
Yes...
My ex and my husband actually coach teeball together. We all can go to events, birthdays, soccer, plays, and any other special occasion and we all get along GREAT.
That is where my main frustration comes from. I know from personal experience, it just does not have to be this hard.
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass...It's about learning to dance in the rain."
welcome
welcome aboard.
while I don't post much,
If you go back to some of my first blogs and responses here you will see a tremendous diference in step parent realtionships in my life alone.
A few weeks ago me and my current attended the wedding of my ex and his wife. The four of us parent the kids together, even ones that are not biologically between us. I really feel that I have the sister I always wanted and respect love and admire her.
On the other hand I felt me current BF's ex was a game player and very intrusive in our liv es. She has a split personality and other mental disorders and has accused me of unimagineable and horrible things. Now because my BF is still with me she has taken his son away. Moved almost across the state and plays games whenever visitation is attempted.
It's a shame to see how a parent can hurt their child so much because they are not mature enough to handle their own lives and feelings.
SOOOOO anyway welcome to the site and hopefully if you are "found" it will help not hurt.
Lisa Dawn