Two Pink Lines
Wow I gotta tell someone. So took 2 pregnancy tests and those d*mn pink lines are brighter than the sun! Dont get me wrong I wanted children but we've only been married for a little over a month! Just getting SD to trust me and now she's gonna be mad again.
We're not going to tell anyone though for two months. It's too early to tell because I should only be a few weeks pregnant.
What have been your experiences with babies and SC? Was is horrible?
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My boys LOVE their baby brother
When DH told SS's that he was dating me, the youngest told him dad you could marry her & have a baby. I want to be the big brother. I got pregnant right before we got married & then lost him at 10 1/2 weeks & lost my right tube. SS was after us to get him a baby right afterwards. DH actually had to tell the kids not to bring it up because I had a hard time getting pregnant again & was very depressed.
THe oldest was less baby crazed, but was okay with the idea. I included them in the ultrasound & once a week we went on line to check on the babies progress ( they are very well educated on how babies grow in the womb) They were there after I had him and were with us the weekend I came home. ( I don't recommend this for your own mental health
) I had an emergency c section and could have used time alone.
Babies are a blessing & I NEVER thought I could love someone as much as I do my son. He is amazing & gets more amazing each day. I can't imagine my life w/o him and don't know how I made it through 39 years w/o him.
Congratulations!Include her & let her know that there is enough love for everyone.
Congratulations!!
You are going to experience such joy like never before. My BD16 which is my baby has a lil sister that her BD and girlfriend created. BD was devistated at first but, she just loves her lil sis. I think it is important to just always teach your lil baby that they have a big sister that loves them and it just will come together. This is what I have seen my BD go through. Her BD has always called her sissy and she has always known about her big sis...
She found out about it when she was 12 and it was over a 5 minute phone call, my BD had just met the GF for the first time over Christmas. BD called on the phone in Feb and shared the news like I said on a 5 min call gave her the news that in May she would be a big sister. Hung up and I had to clean up his mess. She was devistated crying because she wasn't going to be Daddy's baby girl any more. I was caught off guard no less but, we just dusted her off and comforted her. I had a talk with BD to find out if BD was going to have a relationship with this new child or if it was a major mistake I had no idea. BD assured me that this was going to be a long lasting relationship so far so good... Congrats again it will all be ok...
TFB if the skids don't like the new baby
It's too f'king bad if his kids don't like the fact that you're pregnant. Don't let their temper tantrums (and you know they'll have them) give you any stress that could be harmful to you or the baby. Focus on each other and your marriage and your own health. In my case, the skids not liking our own child is a great reason to keep the little creeps away from the house.
Wow, what a great attitude, JezRose!
I bet your skids just LOOOOOVE you!
Girlsonstage22, my skids were very excited to find out they were getting a new baby brother or sister. They loved looking at the ultrasound pics, they helped me go through baby name books and they couldn't wait to see her after she was born. They thought she was just the greatest thing EVER. We had more trouble with our BS, believe it or not! (He had been an only child before and wasn't used to sharing us with other kids, except for twice a month with the skids came to visit.) Now, I will warn you that BM put us through holy hell when SHE found out and I will never forgive her for it, but the skids themselves were terrific.
It's a transition, though, and different kids will handle this kind of change in different ways. Keep her included, try to get her involved, play up the "big sister" aspect. She has lots of time to warm up to the idea, but it may still take some time after the baby is born before she's 100% comfortable that she's not being "replaced." Just try to be sensitive to what this transition means to her and encourage her to talk through her feelings. With us, having children together made me feel more of a bond with my stepchildren. I am the mother of their half-siblings, so now there's an indirect blood tie there.
~ Anne ~
"Adjust on the fly, or you're going to cry."
Steve Doocy, The Mr. and Mrs. Happy Handbook