but we have the videos in our home.

Here is what we do. We let the skids watch them when they want- I just vacate the room. If they want to watch it with their Dad? Fine. I just vacate the room. Because as much as I loathe BM, I love my SDs and if they want to watch the video, they should be able to. I just don't have to be present.

I know for a fact that DH cried when both of his kids were born. I know that from what he has told me. Seeing him show such great affection for his kids is a big part of the reason as to why I love him so much.

I wouldn't ask him to get rid of the video. After all, it is his kid, and chances are that when you have a kid with him, then you'll want him to keep that video, and he might resent it if you asked him to get rid of the video of when SD was born.

you watched it? I have a video of DH and BM at their wedding, but I've never seen it. In fact I forgot about it until I read this. I will give it to OSD when I get home, cause I doubt highly DH will want to keep it, lol.

There is not enough alcohol in the world to get me to watch a video of BM giving birth. YUCK-O!

I would tell DH to put it away somewhere you don't have to see it if he wants to keep it

That video would not be in my house. Eeeewww, and more eeeewwww. The kids' BM can keep it. There is no way I could have watched it! In my case, there is no video, but yuck, just thinking about it is gross.

"God grant me the serenity accept the things I cannot change; the strength to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference."

Thank the lord in my case there is no video of a birth or wedding or any of that in this world...barf. And if there was, thank god my DH wouldn't keep it!

"Nobody will ever win the battle of the sexes. There's too much fraternizing with the enemy"

You are a much better woman than me. That is one thing I could not handle. Hell, I didnt let them put the mirror to see my own son born, I sure dont want to see the skids born! I wouldnt want that video in the house.

Hats off to you - and I am being compeletly honest here, you do truley love your skids...no one can doubt that now! LOL! Good for you. I hope to get to your place one day, but right now I couldnt handle it.

"God grant me the serenity accept the things I cannot change; the strength to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference."

I think my retinas would be permanently scarred for sure if I saw that!!!!

I'm pretty sure there isn't a video but I've never asked. Hmmm, I'll have to ask just because now I need to know.

I doubt that there is a video. Dh and Bm didn't even have their own place to live. They lived with Bm's mother and bank robber father(before he got caught and sent to the big house). Dh and Bm bought nothing together. They only thing they had keeping them together was ss so I doubt they had a video camera.

Dawn

Thank God that our hospital didn't allow videotaping births!! I would just DIE if I thought my ex looked at a video of me half naked, let alone showed anyone!!

“Every truth has two sides; it is as well to look at both, before we commit ourselves to either”~Aesop

I read your blog, and when I started reading the comments, I couldn't take it anymore. The idea of having to watch my DH crying at the birth of his child in a video with his first wife was so painful to me I couldn't stand it.

Gia, I definitely relate. That's the most raw I've felt about being a second wife in quite a while.

BB

- You are not second best, you are not second class. Do not ever let anyone make you feel that way. (2Bloved)

daughters birth. That doesn't hurt me a bit. He bawled like a baby when he was rushing me to the hospital, when he saw OUR daughter for the first time, when the DR told him the C section had to be RIGHT THIS SECOND or I had a chance to not make it (placentia previa), etc. So I don't give a shit how he reacted to thier births. I'm glad he was the man that he's always been to be honest. He was supportive, happy, caring, and a great father from the beginning until time runs out! Woohoo for him. I love that he's a great dad, it shows me alot about him and is one of the reasons I love him like I do.

The VIDEO on the other hand is sicko dude. I could never watch the shit. Not that I wouldn't want to see the miracle of my SD's birth, I love the kid like I was the one birthing her!! But at the same time it's such a delicate moment, and the parents tend to be soooo happy and in love, I wouldn't want to see him loving her like that.

I think that green eyed monster would pop out if I had to watch it.

Oh and the nakedness, dude I would puke. Not just once, for daysssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss.

BM had already kicked my man to the kerb so he wasn't even allowed in the delivery room till his son was about 30 minutes old and then he didn't even see BM he just held his son and then handed him back to BM's friend ( the one who had called to let him know BM was in Labour)

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Poor Gia. What a trip watching that. I'm glad DH doesn't have videos. Hearing the stories is enough.
Esp. when he told me it took "one try" to get the boy--I had to train him that I don't want
any discussion leading me to picture them or any of his previous loves "together." Guys don't get it sometimes.
And I have a vivid imagination.
My one regret in life is that we didn't get to experience childbirth together--we aren't having kids at this point.
And, yes, "a good father" was on the list of what I wanted for a mate. Along with intelligence, humor, etc. I figured a
good dad would be mature and caring, both very attractive!

My DH didn't cry at SS birth (he had his doubts, was young, didn't want a baby and is just not a cryer) He did tear up a little once our son was cleaned up and he held him for the first time, but I really think that is only because when he was born he didn't cry, we didn't hear a peep from him for about 3 minutes and we got scared. They wisked him over to the table to clean him up instead of laying him with me, and DH didn't get to cut the cord (he didn't with SS either, but apparently just didn't choose to) He wanted to this time but they wisked him off to the table. So for the first 5-10 minutes after he was born we were all panicky (they were telling us much except that he would be fine because he already peed) and when we finally held him we both teared up, mostly out of relief. I didn't even cry when my first son was born either, and neither did his dad. We weren't exactly a very happy couple by then though, so I was more scared than anything.

"Nobody will ever win the battle of the sexes. There's too much fraternizing with the enemy"

There's no way on this planet I'd watch a video of my husband in his past life with his ex. Let alone one as intimate as giving birth. That's their private stuff. Nope.