It would bother me too. I don't want dh and bm to share ANYTHING, other than the inevitable mistake = SD6

inevitable mistake

LOVE IT

mistakeS in my world...sd13 & ss10

Just remember hon if wanted to married to her he could be but he is with you, the only thing she has is a name on some mail and membership cards for them both to use with the kids, you have his heart, he CHOSE you he is tied to her only because of the kids he is with you because he loves you so don't give her the satisfaction that you even worry 1 minute about her, remind yourself they divorced for a reason. You have the life she only wishes she. Trust your hubs until he gives you a reason not to. Don't let jelousy get a foothold on you it will just make you miserable! Your mind will always paint things WAAAY worse than they really are. Talk to your hubs tell him how you feel without accusations & that just that you need some reassurances.

When I feel blue like that I plan a special & romantic evening for my hubs & just me & I get dressed up just to see his jaw drop just as a reminder how much better he has it now HA!!!! It also helps my mood just to get dressed up & feel pretty and to go out on a "date" even if its just to a picnic in the park....its great for reminding you both what you have in each other.

have a blessed day!

ive been there and it bothered me to its time toi take her name off and put yours on the bm can get her own for the boys the dh needs to relize hes not with her anymore hes with you

I completely understand! Even you know your DH has any romantic feeling to his ex, it bothers you much. My DH's Costco card still show his ex as a spouse even after 5 yeard from their devorce. I told him I am not happy about that. But DH reacted badly and he accused me I don't trust him (WTF!) And he told me his ex cannot afford for Costco membership and ex can buy food for his kids, blah blah... He said I can go with him any time so I don't need a spouse membership card.

I gave up long time ago and try to disract me from blue feeling.

I understand being civil. I do not understand having a friendship or close relationship for the sake of the kids. If you can get along so well and have such a great relationship you should have stayed married. I don't buy the whole he/she is a great person, we can be buddies I just wasn't in love anymore...then you should have put your "lust" to the side and thought about the kids instead...now it's up to everyone else to think of "the kids" first, when mommy and daddy failed to do so.

I understand how you feel, luckily BM and DH do not share any memberships or such b/c I'd probably have a royal hissy fit, but DH claims that BM is his friend so they talk all the time, and I feel like she's always in my business, I understand she is the kid's mother but the less I have to think about her the better.