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A vent about BM....

This is just a vent. I really need to get this off my chest and tell someone. I haven't been here a while, going through quite a bit of emotional recourse etc. Any way Christmas was great, we had SD3 (almost 4) on Christmas Eve into the morning and her face was priceless!! BS1 could care less about opening anything, he just wanted to chew on everything!!!

Everything was great until Friday morning, the phone rings, it's Satan. "SD3 isn't feeling well and may have pneumonia again. You may have to take her to the doctor. She kept ME up all night coughing." 2 things--if you think your child has pneumonia again, why wouldn't you call the doctor and at least ask the nurse what you should do? and I'm sorry did you say she kept YOU all night coughing, because, of course, it's always about you BM..

Bit of a backstory....SD has been sick ALL of December. She got walking pneumonia in the first week of December and just has been up and down since then.

Me to FDH-"WTH, why hasn't she taken her or called the doctor. If you even think your kid has pneumonia you should call the doctor!! YOU need to make her an apt NOW!!!"
FDH-"I agree."
He calls the doctor and has an apt for Saturday morning!
All is good...then Saturday rolls around....
FDH calls Satan after the doc apt to let her know how SD is, Well she has a sinus infection (poor thing). Those SUCK!!!
FDH asks Satan, "Since you dropped her off later on Friday, I'm going to keep her later on Sunday. But since you have to work on Monday and I watch her, how about I keep her til Monday night so she can get better." I actually thought this was a good idea instead of bouncing this poor kid from place to place.
Satan not so much..."You are trying to guilt me into giving up my time with her." Again BM it's not about you..
FDH..."Ok, then you keep her Monday. Call into work and stay home with her or have someone stay with her. She needs to stay in one place."
Satan..."I can't call into work Monday, I already called in on Friday."
FDH interrupts her and screams, "you called in on Friday and didn't take her to the doctor???" And then hung up the phone...
And when FDH went to pick SD up from Satan grandma's, where the whole family was, Satan was no where to be found. So she was either lying or out with her BF.

All this was coming from a woman that ALWAYS has said and still does say that SD is her #1 priority....

I was livid at this. As a mother, I would always want the best for my son. I would have to put pride and everything else aside and think of him. But she just see's her kids as pawns, living play things. It's absolutely disgusting to me.

Needless to say, SD stayed last night and will be going home this evening.

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FTMandSM's picture

It really is all about her. If anyone isn't doing what she wants or if something isn't about her, she's pissed. It's sad, I feel so bad for SD...

BSgoinon's picture

Yeah, I have been asking BM (who works a whole 10 hours per week) to make an appt. for SS for 2 weeks now. Today I will be making the appt and taking him myself. She must have "better things to do".

FTMandSM's picture

FDH asked BM about making a dentist apt for SD, who has never been. He doesn't have any of her information or else he would do it himself. BM said that she doesn't have time to even make a call to the dentist to set an appt. BM does have a full time job, but she has time to call FDH and be on facebook, you have time to call the dentist and make an appointment....excuses.