Well yesterday I had to put my car in the shop and dh freaked out it is our only car and he has to work tomorrow now let me explain we have another vehicle that needs a little work he won't fix it and sd has to work friday. I would freak out to if I had sat around for a whole MONTH not trying to find a plan b because my car needs work and id like to keep my car running as long as possible. Anyway I talked to him and he LISTENED I told him I've been telling u and sd for about a month the car sounds terrible it got to go to the shop make other plans for getting back together which also tied into my speach from 2 weeks ago to him about helping her get more independent. But he wouldn't listen she wouldn't get off her ass so disengaged not my problem That happened yesterday last night sd mopped her floor first time every in the 6 month's she been here. She also did the dishes because I had stopped he wanted to live nasty so did she I waited it out. And cleaned the cabinets. Today she also helped make breakfast then cooked dinner and did the dishes no horse play or gross affection. Dh says that today he he told sd that she better learn the bus route or get a friend to help you out. Also she made a friend who I believe is a lesbian she claims to be one to the sd. Anyway dh was going to a relative house and she wanted to go to and she was going to have the relative pick her up from friend house when she got ready to leave from friend house. If that isn't princess behavior. I don't know what is. Dh said if u go over your friend house they better be able to drop you off at relative house. He told me she probably mad and that h@e was okay. Maybe she thinks cooking and cleaning will make it so I make the car come back faster...um no it is time to be independent of us. Fly away from the nest its okay....lol. But with the changes I see I kinda feel bad then I remember I told everyone what was going to happen. On a side not dh asked why I don't want to sit in front seat with him I said it was because you never said anything if you don't say what is on your mind then how will anyone know what you thinking. So I'm reaching dh yeah for me 2 steps foward. Any comments or advice welcomed good day :).