I didn't really go into what my in-laws did and how we handled them in the last post, so everyone was left to assuming my DH stood by and did nothing. This is not the case.

First though, in my last post I said my SD would not be treated as equals to my biological children by me. I did not mean this in a material sense. I am not the kind of person who would by double chocolate sundays for my bios and only a lemon pop for the SD. I just mean that I will more than likely showing more love and affection to my own kids.

Second, I realize chances are my kids will probably be brats too, and I will have to argue and yell with them. I also realize it is possible that I will have nothing in common with them as well. This difference though, is if they are my kids, I can comfortably yell and scream at them and feel I have more control over the situation. When I complained about my step daughter, I meant because we have nothing in common it is whole lot harder to bond with her then if we both shared the love of books or SOMETHING. This will probably different with my kids because with them, since they are my flesh and blood, the bond will be there regardless.

Now on to my in-laws. They tend to think they own my step daughter and before we got married, SD use to go over there every other weekend, which at the time was wonderful! My then fiance and I really enjoyed the time we got alone together. Then we moved about forty minutes away, and SD stopped showing interest in wanting to go over there. Both my husband and I thought it wouldn't be right to force her to go over there so often if she didn't want to. The in-laws did not appreciate this and saw it as my fault.

So, a week before our wedding, they staged and intervention for my husband. My SD and I went down to the wedding shower together and my husband went up there to pick up a card someone had sent us for our wedding. They sat him down at the table and told him that this wedding was not best for his daughter and he was blinded by love... and then it gets worse. They told him to not telling me about in bonus or raises he receives because I will just take it from him and spend it all on myself. Then they went on to say if we have any children of my own, he better love SD more and make sure SHE is number one. They even went on to say they think SD should stay away from my little brother (17) because they think he is a little to touchy feeling. WHAT THE FUCK!?!?! (please excuse my language, I still get mad when I think about that.) They have only met my little brother one time at a grill out we were having at the lake. My brother spend most of his time playing with his friends. My Husband was so flabbergasted he couldn't close his month to say anything, but apparently when he left the more he thought about it the madder he got. He decided not to say anything to me at this time because I was stressing out about the wedding.

At the wedding, his mom was suppose to do my SD's hair. I had wanted a cute updo so I had forced her to grow her hair out. Instead of showing up at the time we had asked her too, his mother shows up THIRTY minutes before the wedding! My SD only got the ends of her hair curled while my maid of honor and myself had beautiful updos.

Now, I am going to back track a little bit. Before the wedding, his parents asked if they could pay for the rehearsal dinner. Both my DH and myself explained to them that we were not having a rehearsal or a rehearsal dinner because both the MOH and BM lived out of town and were coming in the night before the wedding and we were going to have our parties that night. We were just going to have the priest tell us what to do before we got ready.

While she was doing my SD's, she looked up to see if she could see me. She didn't know that I had moved to a different part of the room to do my make-up. Then she told my step daughter that we were purposely trying to keep her from taking about of the wedding and how she was planning our rehearsal dinner but I wouldn't hear anything about it and refused to let her throw us one. I was FURIOUS! But I kept my month just because the last thing I wanted was drama on my wedding day.

Then after the wedding, they refused to have their picture taken with me, and the only picture where we were both it was the one with the whole wedding party and parents after that they made sure they were not in another picture with me.

My reception was at my grandmother house. The in-laws were convience they would get lost. So my husband let the SD ride with them to give them directions. Instead of going straight to my grandparents house for the reception they had stopped to EAT! So, when we get to the reception site to take pictures, we can't find our SD anywhere! And of course got very worried. Luckily, our SD pitched such a fit, her uncle drove her to my grandparents house. His parents didn't bother showing up until 37 minutes after the reception started and then got pissed because we did not the toast to "Officially" seat them.

They were suppose to get SD while we are on our honey (that was the only reason why they came to the reception in the first place, they weren't going to go until we told them if they didn't go, they weren't getting SD). They kept asking if they can leave yet, and was she done with everything. When we finally said she could go, they took off so fast, they forget their 7 year old grandson! And came back for him about 15 minutes later after SD reminded them of him.

During the honeymoon, my husband told him what his parent's had said about me, and we both decided it would be for the best if SD did not stay the night there, because we can only see that creating a lot more problems.

So to make the long story short, they kept up with their shit, we stopped going up their to see them. My husband decided not to go up there for Thanksgiving and they got mad accused him of not going able to "Think for himself." and then basically disowned him. My Husband is a trouble though, and even thought it bothers him, he said if they are only going to create problems in our marriage, then they don't need to be around.

I asked him how he was going to tell them when I get pregnant, and he said they can find out through facebook. ROFL! We also agreed when the baby comes, we will not accept anything from them, and our BIOs are going to be calling them by their first names. They made it clear they don't want to have anything to do with our bios and I am going to make it clear that I don't want them to have anything to do with my kids.

Feeling sorry for me yet? Lol