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Submitted by fedup315 on Mon, 02/22/2010 - 2:35am

I am feeling guilty this am. My DH got a call from BM that SS13 had a seizure this morning and she was taking him to the ER. Of course DH is going. Should I have gone with him to support him? I know Bm's boyfriend is there and she is there... I did not want to go to be honest. What can I do really? Stand around and wait for testng. I just called him, they are going to do a CT scan with contrast because he has pain on his right side... they drew a lot of blood..
I am researching things on line here and I did not go back to bed.. but should I have gone with him
?

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Submitted by livebyfaith on Mon, 02/22/2010 - 3:45am

You can only do what you are comfortable with. If you didn't want to go, then you would have been uncomfortable, and DH would have had to worry about you being uncomfortable as well as worrying about his son. I don't think you should feel guilty- so long as DH feels loved and supported by you through this, then that's all that will matter to him. And if you have been calling him and researching online, it's obvious that you're concerned and thinking of him and his son.

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Submitted by livebyfaith on Tue, 02/23/2010 - 11:42pm

"at least BM and her BF are there so DH sin't alone. Hopefully the three of them can support on another."

That was completely uncalled for.

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Submitted by outofplace on Wed, 02/24/2010 - 12:50am

I personally am very close to my ss4, so I would have gone to the hospital. But it would have been hard for me. And I would not be in the same room as BM. If I wasn't close to SS, I dunno what I would have done... I feel for you. You're in my thoughts. Best wishes.

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Submitted by fedup315 on Wed, 02/24/2010 - 5:54am

The seizure was caused from overheating under an electric blanket. However he had his apendix out... it was actually fortunate that he had the seizure.
I should have given some background on this situation. BM is totally out of hand and might have flipped out had I been there. That wouldn't have been good for SS13 nor DH. She is also quite prone to exaggeration...this was a a
rare occassion when her actions were appropriate and correct.

As a side note, I don't feel that any one of us is here to judge anyone else, we are here to listen and be supportive. I can take and even asked for opinons on this one, but the judgement and implications were not necessary. I can only hope Just-a - mom, that you are never between a rock and a hard place like I felt I was.
The good news is that he is fine, I went to see him after his surgery when BM needed to leave for a while. He is home and resting very comfortably.

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Submitted by stepmom008 on Wed, 02/24/2010 - 12:31pm

We had an incident last year where SD passed out (after being in a hot bathtub with barely any food all day & no dinner - good job supermom!) and she took her to the hospital. I went because a) BF was a MESS and b) I wanted to know what really happened.

It's your choice what you're comfortable with - no right or wrong Smile

"There are two things over which you have complete dominion, authority, and control over - your mind and your mouth".