My husband and I have been married for 6 years. After my first marriage, I swore I would never be with another man who had children. But against my better judgement, I did. At first I got along great with my then 14&12 year old SD's. I gave 110% into those children, whom did not have set visitation they would just come hang out when they wanted. I went above and beyond in including them and inviting them to do things with my husband and I. I had my daughter from a previous marriage who is 11 now, 5 when I married my hubby. Things were good for the first few years, I even offered my oldest SD to come stay with us when she was having severe problems at her home with her mother and step-dad. It seemed like it happened overnight when my SD's decided they hated my guts. (Their mother had a lot to do with that. She is very manipulative and scandalous. She didn't want my hubby but didn't want anyone else to have him either. She is a whole other set of problems.) A few months ago, my oldest SD, who is now 20 and out on her own, and her mother concocted a story that I was cheating on my husband. They even went as far to "screen shot" text messages between me and some man. What they did was text messaged each other back and forth (they have iPhones like myself) pretending to be me and this pretend man. The daughter then took a screen shot of the bogus texts and made a bee line straight to my house while I was at work (I am a nurse and work weekends. My hubby was home since it was a Sunday) to show my hubby the bogus texts and convinced him I was cheating. I was blind-sided when he called me at work screaming at me about these text messages bc I had no clue what he was talking about. He didn't even give me the benefit of the doubt, since it was his precious angel telling him this lie, he automatically believed her over me. This lie that they concocted almost destroyed my marriage and it has not been the same since. I finally convinced my husband she was lying after I spent over $100 on software to retrieve all of my deleted text messages and showed him my phone records, Facebook page, everything I could to prove she was lying. She did this bc she wanted "Daddy" all to herself again. I had started divorce proceedings because the story they had made up caused my husband and I to have a very, very bad fight. (That's putting it lightly. I take my wedding vows serious, so you can only imagine how bad this fight was if I had started to divorce him). Long story short, he finally believed me. I told him I will not live the rest of my life like this. I will not tolerate her trying to sabotage our marriage and I refuse to feel like #2 compared to my SD. He was mad she had made the whole story up and he assured me that she would never be welcome in my home and he was "suppose" to tell her that he wanted no contact with her if this was how she was going to act. I stressed to him how I already had another house to move me and my kids too if he was not sure about his decision. Basically he fed me a bunch of bulls**t and blew smoke up my a** just to please me at the moment. Well, last night she had a baby and he went to the hospital to see his "grandchild" be born. The thought of my hubby being a grandpa literally makes me sick and I want no part of it. Throughout her pregnancy, I purposely got rid of any of my kids leftover baby items just so they wouldn't be given to her. I despise this girl with every ounce of blood in my body. It would be different if I hadn't put forth so much effort in including her and trying to include both of my SD's in my family. My husband tells me I act like a spoiled, jealous brat bc I told him that I never want to hear her name or anything about the demon spawn she gave birth too. I have realized that I will always live in her shadow as long as I am married to him and I will not live like this. She takes advantage of my hubby so much and I see through all of her bullshit. She only calls him when Christmas is approaching or she needs something. She used to come over and come into MY home while I was at work. I told him she is not welcome in my home and neither is that thing she gave birth too. I also told him if I find out she is coming over while I am at work, I will come home and remove her myself. I do feel bad that my husband is in this situation, basically having to choose between me or her, but I can't help it. I feel like I am second best and she will always come first. Even though I exposed her as being the trifling bitch she is, he doesn't understand and makes me feel like I am the bad person bc I feel this way. This girl purposely made up a lame, bogus story to ruin our marriage and it's just a matter of time before it happens again. She is now an adult, not a child. Now that she has had this baby and has made my husband a "grandpa" it literally disgusts me. I can't help how I feel and I feel repulsed that my hubby is now "Papaw" to her new baby. I am only 34 and it makes me sick to be married to someone who has a grandchild. I know that I sound like a jealous bitch, but my animosity towards this girl is justified. Has anyone ever been through this situation that can offer advice?? Please, no negative comments. I have heard enough negativity from my husband.