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The Shit has hit the fan around here.

EvilAngel's picture

Sorry if this is long. I haven't posted in a while because it's just been CONSTANT and I figured what was the point in bitching about it all the time. I have been miserable for the past few weeks and decided I better vent before this house turns into a crime scene. Last Wednesday night I was in the kitchen fixing something to eat and I heard my puppy yelp. I ran into the living room and Thunderfoot is sitting on the couch feeding my husband's dog from her plate. First of all she's not supposed to have food in the living room and she knows that. Secondly, she knows better than to feed one dog and not the other. When I went in the living room she was laughing at the fact that the big dog had snapped at my puppy. I grabbed Mac(DHs dog)by the collar to put him in the garage to cool off. I was pissed and when I shut the door his tail got slammed in it. He of course yelped and Thunderfoot comes running in asking what happened. I told her I accidentally caught Mac's tail in the door and that he was fine. She said ok and went upstairs. Not a minute later she comes stomping through the kitchen, opens the garage door and yells for Mac. I asked her what the hell she was doing and she said, "No one is going to slam MY dog's tail in the door!" Ummmm WTF? You know I didn't do it on purpose and you just decided over the course of a minute to come try to show your ass? The reason behind her "rescue" of HER dog (the dog is only hers when it is convenient for her or she is trying to show off) was that she was on the phone with her BF and I guess she wanted to show him what a little bad ass she thought she was. When she accused me of doing that on purpose it flew all over me. I already can't stand her so I followed after her. She and I were yelling back and forth and my husband comes out of the bedroom asking what the hell is going on. She proceeds to tell him that I shut the dog's tail in the door on purpose. I snapped! I told her if she came downstairs anymore that night...I would beat her ass. Apparently she muttered something about beating my ass but I didn't hear that, DH did. She better be glad I didn't hear it.
The next morning DH had a talk with her about respecting me and this house and told her that she was going to be given a list of rules and expectations. She made the comment, "So I have to respect her after she said she would beat my ass?" He responded that he thought he had heard her say it back so let it go. We came up with the list together although most of the suggestions were his and gave it to her. I didn't go in her room when he talked to her or gave her the list but he said she was fine with it. Sure she was....The first day following the new rules, she did fine. But she also wanted to go to her BFs graduation party on Saturday so why would she disobey? Her younger sister Softheart came over that weekend and Thunderfoot ran her mouth to her saying that the new rules were all my fault and they were stupid and she didn't understand why she had to do them. There is nothing on there that would make me out to be Cinderella's evil step mother. It's basic every day shit that MOST people already do but clearly this lazy ass teenager needs reminding of. Most of it was clean up after yourself and stop talking back!
She went to his party on Saturday and then on Sunday we took Softheart, Thundefoot and her BF to the pool. Again Thunderfoot was running her mouth about me in front of Softheart and she tells me everything. Now Thunderfoot's little BF has started running his mouth about me and DH. Saying that we are mean to her all the time and that DH yells at her all the time. He NEVER yells at her! I don't think I have ever heard him raise his voice at her at all. But of course teenagers lie and she wants her BFs sympathy. Well that's great but since he wants to run his mouth....he isn't coming over here anymore. I put the kibosh on that after this past weekend! DH (against my wishes) let the BF stay Sunday night. (This was before I knew he had been bad mouthing me and DH) DH offered to take him home when he went to work in the morning but the BF said that his mom would come get him at 9. I don't work on Mondays so I was going to just lay in bed until I heard him leave. It was pretty quite around 10:30 so I went downstairs and there they are in the kitchen, cooking like they own the place. I was a bit startled and asked, "What are you doing here?" He told me his mom was running late. An hour and a half??? Softheart later told me that he and Thunderfoot had called his mom and asked her to come get him later. They didn't bother to ask me or DH. His mother did not come get him until almost 3:00. I was livid!!! I couldn't take him home because my car was in the shop and DH was at work!
I am DONE with her and her bullshit! There will be no more BF for the entire summer and life will be complete and total hell for her if I have anything to do with it. I am not going to remind a 16 year old that she needs to throw her trash away or change the toilet paper roll! I am not going to remind her to clean her hamster cage or wash her clothes. I am going to start being the biggest bitch that I possibly can! Rant over....

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EvilAngel's picture

That's my next course of action. Hamsters gone and all trash will be thrown in her room! The dog isn't hers, it's DHs. He's not a problem just an asshole sometimes. As for the toilet paper, she just puts the new one on top of the old. Lazy lazy lazy

EvilAngel's picture

That's what I said. Hell dumbass. You do know where babies come from I'm guessing?!?!

EvilAngel's picture

I was totally against that decision and it is now clear that it will NOT be happening again! I don't know wtf DH was thinking obviously he wasn't!

EvilAngel's picture

She is 16 going on 5!! She is one of the most immature 16 yr olds I have ever been around! Her 13 yr old sister is more mature than she is.

Exjuliemccoy's picture

:jawdrop: Right???

The DH deserves to be grounded too, for allowing these shenanigans to go on under his roof.

EvilAngel's picture

I agree with you on that first point. I really shouldn't give 2 shits what she has to say about me and in all honesty I don't. I was just really pissed off because of the whole fight about the dog and anything was going to get on my nerves. Her breathing gets on my nerves most of the time. And as far as the dog's tail..while I didn't do it on purpose, I probably could have been more careful but at the time I didn't give a shit. But the only reason she came back downstairs is because she was on the phone with her BF. She wanted to show her ass and she accomplished that. As for the BF staying over...you got me on that. I told DH I DID NOT want him to stay nor did I think it was a good idea. Maybe that was his graduation present from DH...getting to try to knock his daughter up. I've told DH that I am NOT raising a 16 year olds child.

EvilAngel's picture

HAHA I did apologize to him! Promise. Hell he slept with ME that night. Weird seeing how he is HER dog. He always sleeps with me and DH. Probably because he is DHs dog...not hers.

EvilAngel's picture

He did actually admit to his stupidity after the fact and said it won't be happening again. Ya think? I KNOW it won't!

EvilAngel's picture

Most of that was said out of anger but her life is getting ready to drastically change and it will ultimately be my fault I am sure. Only because we are moving and we have to save money so we are cutting out a lot of "extras" that we don't need. She will be angry with me because of it but it's something that we have to do to get where we need to be.

luchay's picture

Yup.

BarkAtTheMoon's picture

"Men will not take sides on children versus the wife, if the wife is involved. Wife not involved? Man has to correct the child."

Dtzy, I'm a Scorpio. I find it very hard to "find my zen" while in the moment. An STer here once posted to "observe, not absorb," when it comes to cray-cray SDs throwing tantrums.

I'm going to try like hell to get my zen on!

~ Moon

WTF...REALLY's picture

I am still stuck at the kid spent the night. Just wow. Makes me think your DH and SD talk like this....."Party on Garth"..."Party on Wayne"

I guess he wants to be the fun dad. And the world gets another loser woman....thanks dad.

I have blown a gasket with my SD14. Check my recent blogs. When I blew it, I felt like I was going to hit her. Never came so close in my life. Told her to stay away from me the rest of the night. She did.

I fried my hubby as the primary parent. If he wants to stay married to me, then I am raising his kid MY way cuz his way was not working!!!!! Its been five years of it not working.

Best thing I ever did. So far the last four days have been great. SD seams almost relieved to have me taking over.

Sometimes a shoe really needs to drop for change to happen. Make this the time for you.

Wish ya luck....and a glass of red wine at night. Smile

EvilAngel's picture

She truly makes me see red. And you are right...he wants to be the fun dad and for everyone to be happy. I've told him it doesn't work that way. Everyone is not going to be happy all the time and who cares if she's happy if it means she might also end up knocked up?

furkidsforme's picture

What is it with husbands that want so bad to be the "cool dad" that they wants boyfriends to sleep over????

My DH has tried to pull that stunt with every.single.skid. Otherwise he's a pretty normal and intelligent man. He simply could not understand why it was such a hill to die on for me.

He agreed his parents would NEVER have allowed it for him, and he agrees that it sends the message to invite and encourage sex.... yet he still wanted to do it.

I guess the lure of being the "buddy parent" is that intoxicating.

It was my hill to die on and I said NEVER. Never ever, not once, not for any reason. Period.