Hello everyone! Hope you are having a good day so far

In this chapter I will talk about BM, a.k.a The Wet Blanket (nickname courtesy of my DH lol).

TWB is not HC nor toxic nor bad mom so really we should be grateful! and for the most part we are but sometimes she drives us crazy.  TWB got her nickname because she gets easily overwhelmed and cries about everything (and when I say everything I mean everything. One time when my DH and her were dating they lived briefly with my MIL, one day TWB bought some sausages -ones the apparently she really liked- TWB ate the last sausage (only one sausage she ate) -in her own house!!- and TWB started crying to my DH that those were heeer favouriiiiiteee). This in itself is no problem but she takes the same approach when it comes to parenting. Some examples. My SS6 is a fussy eater, when she has tried to encourage him to try new things or eat all his dinner she starts crying and getting so overwhelmed that she has taken the approach of giving him only what he wants to eat (plain pasta and pizza) every.single.day. This has created such a huge problem for us because we ain't giving him only that when he is at ours! We have more children, we are raising them to eat properly, healthy, balanced foods! We are very flexible with SS6 (because we only have him EOW our hard work gets completly undone when he is back at his mom so its a lost battle), but of course we still encourage him -nicely and lovingly- to eat more than only pizza and pasta. We have made some progress over time, at ours he eats for example some chicken, cucumber, strawberries, porridge....but it has been lots of hard work!. Another example, my SS6 is not very independent, at his mom she stills wipe his bum for him because "he doesn't want to do it and I don't want to upset him", my DH was doing this as well but one day he was like "you are getting too old for this now (no kidding) so you need to do it yourself", sure enough he started doing it himself until one day whe noticed that he simply wasn't having poos at ours because he rather holding it in and waiting to be back at mommys where he gets his butt wipe for him!!! He started having tummy issues because he was holding it in so now my DH has been whiping his bum for him again (geeeezzzz), however our plan is to get him to start pooing at ours again and then start to encourage him slowly to wipe himself. The list goes on and on.   

The latest example of TWB being so usless happened yesterday (my nickname to her would be Usless lol but the story about the sausages is so funny that I'm sticking with TWB). Over the last few weeks she has mentioned to my DH that she is feed up with SS6 misbehaving and having a bad attitude. My DH has listened and provided advice (we actually came with ideas lol). Last weekend SS6 was with us and we had some issues that needed discpline and to be corrected but nothing too bad. Monday she texts my DH saying "SS6 has been an angel today, getting ready for school with no fuss, cleaning his teeth by himself blablabla so I have been giving him lots of praise and well done, I'm so proud blablabla" (we said to ourselves, not to her, well that's pretty normal behaviour for us, like the minimum to be expected!). Then she texted yesterday saying "he has been horrible and nasty today and I'm sick of it", we inmediatly provided advice and age appropiate consequencues (like taking some toys away for a few days), a few minutes later she sends a video of them both playing with some toys and having a laugh to which my DH said, well, he won't understand consequences for actions if two seconds later after misbehaving you are acting like nothing happened, to which she replied "Oh my god! I'm not going to be a dick to him!! He is only 6!!! I don't want to upset him". GEEEEZZZ...We are not talking about being horrible to him, just to parent him!! For the record we are never horrible to him but we are firm and give him structure, which is why he is only very naughty at hers!!!

Lord give me PATIENCE