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ESMe's picture

Ok....well he told me he talked to her a little bit the other night and more yesterday. I asked him if she mad. He said no..."I put it to her that I know how unhappy she is and I think it's time for her to start looking for an apartment and I will help her with rent for a year and then she's on her own." He didn't tell her that he knew about her evil and cruel texts to me.
Ok. At first I was relieved in the fact I wouldn't have to deal with her bulls*** about coming down on me for this. And that he didn't have to come out and tell her she needed to move ASAP. Now that I've thought about it awhile....did what he say to her, AGAIN make her feel it was all about HER AGAIN? OR was he putting it this way to make it easier on me so that she don't come to me and try to kill me?
I'm kinda not knowing how to see this...... I'm not wondering if she really knows I instigated this....I mean she is pretty naive. I mean and then by him putting it to her this way...she has no accountability for what she said to me. I told you he is a peacekeeper!
I did tell him that if she wants to talk to me after she grows up it's up to her. He said we just clash...I said no....we just can't live together cause she thinks this is her house only. Then he said her and I are worlds apart......I said no....she thinks this is her house only. HELLO?
I finally dropped it. What do you guys make of how he presented it to her?

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giveitago's picture

I think he does not like conflict, very few of us do! I think that he is putting you first by encouraging her to move out. The nitty gritty is really not relevant any more, the decision is made in your favor. Whether or not she realizes this in later years remains to be seen but for now, if I were you, I'd accept this as him choosing you over her and being as diplomatic as he can be without upsetting both of you.