so since i'm out of the house, i've paid my attorney her reatiner fee, and will be getting things filed soon, now just to figure out which way to go next. i'm about 20g in debt in student loans HOWEVER some was used to pay living expenses, so my mom and attorney suggested getting statements to prove that the extra i received went to household bills, etc (which i will be working on) so that he'll HAVE to pay a portion of the living expenses and help me get that paid off. now the debate is: mom wants me to stay with her until i get ALL my debt paid off and 8 months worth of living expenses saved up, and only pay her rent so that xh can't claim my living expenses that i'm NOT paying as income, she plans to put that in savings for me. but really, when i lived just miles from family, it got REA...LLY annoying (already has) having to check in with ppl or explain why the car was in my yard and who's it was. + i LOVE hosting parties, and can't in my mom's house and she doesn't want me having men sleep over (understandably). but really business and family only mixes for so long before it blows up. AND she told me when he and i first got together that she wouldn't help me out of it and she's already done so much more than i expected. so i'm wondering if i should make her stick to her guns on that cause she's come to my aid with every relationship that's blown up in my face----if she continues-----will i ever learn how to get myself out??? BUT if i don't live with her for at least a year-getting out of debt will take a LONG time and HER plans will mean sticking with mom til dd is almost in hs (5+ years) i HIGHLY doubt i can handle that