After hearing all of you out and investigating how I really feel about the whole situation, I have decided not to write the SD a letter. I am afraid I can't offer any closure or comfort of any kind.

I tried several times to do it, but it always seemed like too much, not enough, dishonest, too honest, etc. There is no happy medium. Par for the course, I suppose, considering there was never a happy medium in our household.

So yeah. I've not seen her in a little over two weeks, and I want to keep it that way. I've told her dad as much; though he doesn't seem to understand it. But his understanding is not my problem anymore. He should have done more, and he should have done it faster...before it came to this.

Eventually it'll completely end he and I, but really, considering how things have gone? That is probably for the best, too.

BTW, I tried to write letters to him a few times, but BOY WERE THOSE ANGRY. I quit trying those after a day or two.

But hey....my sons and I have been far less tense and stressed. Our little apartment is quiet except for giggling and the hum normal conversations. They don't see me all wrapped up in bullshit, and I don't see them clinching their fists and walking away with red, upset faces.

Ladies, you cannot put a price on that. And even if someone could, I wouldn't take any amount of money for the peace we are experiencing. I would never trade this.

The only big fight going on now is between me and the "D"H. I asked that he not put SD in the same high school as my oldest son. I didn't this the request was too much, considering the two of them don't even live in this district. But golly has that started some shit. Maybe I'll post about that another time and get some input. Until then, be well!

(and thank SO much for all the help)