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step son cruel to my cat what do i do??

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Submitted by emmylou on Sat, 12/03/2011 - 7:18am

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My 1 year old cat who i adore, broke her pelvis last year an so had to have her kittens aborted because if shed of give birth to them she would have died. I looked after her in a cage for a month feeding her medicine twice a day.i paid out hundreds in vet bills because i didnt have an insurance. The vet said she was not ran over because of the position of her fracture. So i was puzzled what happened to her. I have just found out 11months later that my 14year old step son. Threw her up in the air laughing with his friends saying 'watch this cat fly' an as she fell to the floor she cried an dragged herself away limping. Straight away i called my step son an his attitude was..that it was ages ago an he doesnt care.. I told him he's not welcome at my house anymore an i called the RSPCA and reported him. My fiance isnt too pleased with my reaction and i can feel arguments looming. What should i do? Im so upset

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Submitted by Jmom on Sat, 12/03/2011 - 9:20am

Knock him the F___! out!!! Ok that's what I want to do to him but in the real world that would not be realistic. You've got to talk to DH on this one. I watch way to much Criminal Minds to sleep on this.

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Submitted by emmylou on Sat, 12/03/2011 - 11:47am

I am a clam person in general. But i was shaking with pure anger he's lucky he was not here. I had to keep telling myself im just glad sophie is ok now an thats the most important thing. I regret putting her in that situation an it wont happen again. Cos he's not allowed near us. Kids nowadays have respect for nothin an no1 they need a good smack sometimes. I got smacked did me no harm

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Submitted by PeopleAreStrange on Sat, 12/03/2011 - 9:24am

DS13 was doing similar stuff when I first moved in about 2 years ago. He has aspergers and empathy is really hard for him. We got rid of the cat and got him in more intensive therapy. Frankly, I love animals but I think getting rid of the cat is the most fair to everyone. Whatever your stepson's issues, the behavior will not stop overnight and the kitty deserves place where she is safe.

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Submitted by Most Evil on Sat, 12/03/2011 - 9:43am

I would beat his ass for this!!!!!! I am glad you reported him and definitely he is not welcome at your house, that is a total punk bitch thing to do to any animal. Sad

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Submitted by hismineandours on Sat, 12/03/2011 - 9:51am

Animal creulty is against the law. Your dh should be concerned for that reason alone ( not to mention the fact that his son thinks its funny to inflict pain on helpless victims). Tell him you are tryig to put a stop to this now before the kid continues and ends up in prison or killing someone.

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Submitted by hismineandours on Sat, 12/03/2011 - 9:52am

curious as to how you found this out? Did he admit to it? Or did someone else tell you? My dh probably would have simply refused to believe that that incident caused the break and act like that that was the important thing.

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Submitted by emmylou on Sat, 12/03/2011 - 10:51am

My step daughter an i were talking about the animals and she said hey did u ever find out who threw the cat, i very calmly said oh what do u mean. An she told me an i just said oh really...very calmly but i thought id burst into tears. My partner seems to think cats always land on there feet so how can this happen?....but he has also had strong words with his son. And wants him to admit the truth he thinks maybe hes scared to admit it

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Submitted by emmylou on Sat, 12/03/2011 - 11:13am

Thanks i agree, my partners upset over it at the time his son lived with us after being to much for his mother to cope with. Now he's back with his mum an he's not coming near my house or pets certainly un supervised.... What hurts more is the fact he never came forward out of guilt.. Thats the worrying part for me. Just doesnt seem to care, he's not bothered ive banned him from the house thats y i called the RSPCA an reported him

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Submitted by Lalena75 on Sat, 12/03/2011 - 10:11am

So's 4 year thinks it's funny to try and punch the dog when he thinks no one is looking as well as hit him with the dog toys throw the dog food and dump out the dogs water. This doesn't sit well with the dog and he now growls at him whenever he gets near his things but anyone else could play with the dog's stuff and no problem, last time I saw him hit the dog I screamed "How dare you hit my dog!" loud enough for the whole house to hear he didn't think I could see him (I saw it in the reflection on the tv) SO my kids his sister all came running stared at him and watched his dad spank his little butt and put him in time out. I'll beat the kids bottom and screw bm if she gets mad

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Submitted by emmylou on Sat, 12/03/2011 - 12:00pm

When my son was 3 he used to throw potatoes at our little dog an blame him for drawing on the walls. He loved the dog an saw him as his brother. Maybe sit down with the child an explain how small the dog is an u could encourage him to maybe feed or brush him then praise him for taking good care an tell everyone how fantastic he is at brushing/feeding his pet etc. Sounds like he's bullying the dog is anyone bullying the child maybe an not realising the effects.. Sounds like he's taking an anger or frustration out on him Sad poor dog. I hate seeing dogs get smacked it so wrong

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Submitted by Lalena75 on Sat, 12/03/2011 - 2:58pm

His sister bosses him and my SO has talked to her but BM lets her so it's not really counteracting it. We tried the feeding, brushing getting to play fetch and the dog is bigger than him. He's 4 so I try to remember what mine were like at that age but they were mine so I spanked their butts for stuff like that and we don't always catch him doing it. He doesn't pick on the cats just the dog his GM has a tiny dog I guess he terrorizes it to and then looses it has a screaming fit if her dog snaps at him and then it's all "you poor thing was the dog mean to you?" and the dog gets smacked around for it. I think it's attention seeking but my dog might not snap at him and I don't want to deal with the results both from BM and the authorities on a dog bite. We had a neighbor girl once say my dog bit her (turned out several other kids saw her playing with broken glass and my dog was inside at the time she lied caus she was told by her mom to stay out of a trash pile they had) animal control threatened to take my dog over it till wittnesses told what happened and she admitted she lied and his shots rabies etc are current. I hate seeing kids and a 14 yr old knows better harming animals I go to the same thoughts is this child going to grow up and hurt people. I think though he may of been showing off for his friends teen boys in groups lose brain cells.

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Submitted by giveitago on Mon, 12/05/2011 - 9:30am

Even taking into account that 'cats always land on their feet' there's ABSOLUTELY no reason to abuse an animal. Animals are more loyal than some damned humans!
I caught one of the boys here picking up the smallest dog, ready to 'drop kick' him and I told him, LOUDLY (just as another poster did) that if he EVER did that again he'd be looking for somewhere else to live! This boy is SS's friend who lives with us, SS and SD (twins) have all be told about abusing the pets. They are bad assed kids, break the law, SD took a knife to SS one day. It's hell on wheels and I pay closer attention to these things than DH does because I have more time than he does...he is livid too when I tell him what happens. DH loves our pets as much as I do.